As a father you often have to wonder, or may find yourself questioning, am I on the right path, am I doing what’s right for my family, am I leaving the legacy a good father should? These questions are often a lot harder to answer for our military veterans for any number of reasons. This week’s guest, Ben Killoy is a US Marine Corps veteran on a mission, a mission to master leadership principles and use his passion for leadership to help dads understand who they are, develop their skills to overcome adversity, and to own their life choices to enable them to truly come home to their families. This is done through his weekly Military Veteran Dad podcast and his daily The Business of Fatherhood podcast.
Have you ever heard someone say, that’s “My Truth” or “That’s his/her Truth”? I don’t know how it started, but here’s another life tip from Wilk… There is no my truth, your truth, his truth or her truth, THERE IS ONLY THE TRUTH.
In this week’s episode I had to bring up an article/video from the Daily Wire I saw of a professor at a college in southern California that was berating one of her students for a report he did where he called police heroes. She equates modern police to slave catchers in early American history. I only brought it up, because I saw on line where someone had defended her hatred by saying “that is her truth”. There is no such thing as “her truth”, there is only her hate filled perception of reality, big difference. Listen to this episode and let me know what you think. Maybe she’d benefit from episode 52 where I discuss the Reticular Activating System and the Perpetual Victim Mentality. If she would listen with an open mind I’m certain she’d benefit greatly as would anyone…
Talking Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids with Stephanie Pinto
~What is emotional intelligence?
~How do we as parents learn to become emotionally intelligent and exhibit emotionally intelligent behavior?
~Why is it so important to raise emotionally intelligent children?
~Resilience in children
~Self-confidence in children
~What is the difference between discipline and punishment?
Do you want to change your life? Do you want to change the world?
Join me in doing the DTH 30 day Attitude of Gratitude & Personal Accountability Challenge! As I discussed with Denise Albright back in Episode 50, when you begin to record daily things that you are grateful for, you begin to naturally find more things to be grateful for and as a result become a happier person. This is also in large part due to the reticular activating system which I discuss in Episode 52.
The same can be said for personal accountability. Much of what happens “to us” in life is the result of our own actions and decisions. By accepting accountability for those actions and decisions, we consciously learn to make better decisions. We as individuals are responsible for our actions, and how we react to outside forces, no matter what those forces may be. No matter how much one wants to deny the truth, much of the “bad” we encounter in life could have been avoided by making better decisions, &/or reacting differently to outside influences.
#gratitude #accountability #PersonalAccountability
How does (RAS) Reticular Activating System relate to The Perpetual Victim Mentality?
For many, perception is reality, and when it comes to peoples’ perception of things, it begins with what they are most focused on most of the time. I’ve stated it many times before and I’ll continue to say it, those who constantly drive the victim mentality into their children are committing child abuse. What this does is set the primary focus in that child’s mind that the world is out to get them and as such, their reticular activating system will seek out every opportunity in their day to day lives to manifest that as a reality. Conversely, as I discussed with Denise Albright in Episode 50 of the podcast, when one focuses on and looks for things to be grateful for, finding gratitude daily becomes easier, and subsequently, happiness and a more fulfilling life becomes the result. It’s a tale of 2 choices with entirely different results.
This is truly an episode that everyone can greatly benefit from! I challenge you to prove me wrong…
As anyone who knows me, or that has listened to the Derate The Hate podcast for any amount of time knows, I truly believe happiness begins and ends with gratitude. I don’t believe it is possible to be a happy person if you are not a grateful person. This past year, my wife purchased the Gratitude Finder from DeniseAlbright.com, not only for herself but for many people as gifts for this past Christmas. After having a look at this product, I knew Denise was someone I wanted to talk to more and share that with my listeners.
In this episode, I am joined by Denise Albright, founder and “She-E-O” of DeniseAlbright.com and creator of the Gratitude Finder journal. When you look at the cover of this journal, there is a phrase on there, “Look for something Great, & you’ll always find it!” and in requesting this interview I found someone great in Denise. Her bright and cheerful organizational stationary products are doing great things for many and it was a true pleasure to have the opportunity to speak with her.
Have you ever asked yourself, “Why don’t more Muslims stand up to Islamic Extremists?” Have you ever heard of Average Mohamed? Mohamed Ahmed is the creator and executive director of AverageMohamed.com and through his outreach and grass roots efforts, he is truly battling extremism with an alternative narrative.
What is Average Mohamed? Who better to tell you than Average Mohamed himself, Mohamed Ahmed. This week’s interview gives you a great insight in to what Mohamed does with his counter ideology organization dedicated to stopping extremism and hate. Average Mohamed uses pop culture, social media platforms like Facebook & YouTube, as well as other mediums to promote peace, democracy and anti-extremism. His outreach has put him in front of tens of thousands of youths across America and his videos have been seen millions of times worldwide.
Recently I became aware of a grass-roots organization called Braver Angels when I met Rick Hotchner. He and his wife Barbara are state ambassadors for this organization that has a mission to bring civility back to public discourse when it comes to the toxicity surrounding our current political environment.
In this episode I had the pleasure of sitting down for a conversation with Rick and Barbara to discuss how they came to be part of BraverAngels.org. You see, Rick and Barbara are in what they self-describe as a mixed marriage. Now this is not your typical mixed marriage, but Rick falls more in line with Conservatives and Barbara is more Liberal. After long careers in public service and returning to the states, Rick and Barbara sought out an organization that would help them Bride the Divide in their political differences, as well as the divide in their beloved country. They found the perfect venue to do just that in theirlocal Minnesota chapter of Braver Angels.