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Episode 12: Be Proactive, Be Responsible

Like much of what I talk about in the Derate The Hate podcast, being able to make mature, value based logical decisions works out far better in most all scenarios than emotion based reactions. One’s life is largely based on the actions and decisions they make, not the actions of others as some would have you believe. When someone is constantly told they are a victim or somehow oppressed, they begin to feel powerless and fall in to a toxic cycle of not trying, or ignoring opportunities to better their lot in life. Being proactive is taking back the power, coming to the realization that being able to choose how to respond to things out of your control is the ultimate power, and that is what leads to a positive and happy life.

Episode 11: Virtue Signaling, Privilege and Cancel Culture

My podcast is geared towards and meant to create a dialogue, a constructive conversation between those of differing opinions in an effort to help one another better understand each other and take down the hate between people of differing opinions. It is my opinion that accusing all white people of privilege, or assuming all whites are racist, is in and of itself a racist concept. I was born to a poor couple in northwest Iowa and remained poor throughout my childhood. My greatest privilege growing up, and to this very day, is the fact that I was born to married parents who remained married and raised my sisters and me, all the while together until my father passed away.

Episode 10: Yes is Easy, but NO is the Right Answer

in episode 10 I’m pointing out something that has been one of my greatest flaws as someone who tends to be a people pleaser. All too often, many of us find it easier to say YES when the answer really should be NO. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where someone asked you a favor, or to do something you really didn’t want to or didn’t have the time to do, but you said yes anyway, almost out of instinct. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Episode 9: Delayed Gratification

In a world of smart phones, 24 hour news cycles, any type of entertainment available at any time with the touch of a button, we’ve become conditioned to expect everything at a moments notice and if we don’t get it, we become frustrated and that frustration leads to a pattern of unhappiness. I give the example of growing up and waiting all week to sit on the floor with my cereal on Saturday morning and watching the cartoons, when we had a TV. This is a stark contrast to the kids nowadays that have YouTube and 24 hour cartoon channels.

Episode 8: Misery Loves Company

We all know at least one person that has a complete inability to see the positive in anything, someone that has nothing positive to say and is always spreading negativity. In this episode I talk about how being positive in the initial part of any conversation can guide the way that conversation can go and the chain reaction effect of positivity or negativity in the people with which you may be interacting. Much like the financial principle that you are the average of the 5 people you associate with most, it is my opinion that you are incapable of being a happy and positive person if the people you associate with most are always negative and miserable.

Episode 7: Misguided Anger Leads to Chaos

Wilk here from WilksWorld.com for another edition of the Derate The Hate podcast. This week we’ve seen terrible riots throughout the country as a result of the death of George Floyd in Minneapolis, MN at the hands of a bad cop. Though race has not been established as a motive, local politicians, doing what politicians do, instantly made it about race and bad actors from all over began taking to the streets. Are all cops racist, do we suffer from institutional racism? The politicians and media would have you believe so, but the facts do not support that narrative. But the media and the politicians, in an effort to whip up emotions take it there immediately and now in Minneapolis alone we’ve seen well in excess of a billion dollars in damages, businesses and lives destroyed, and outside influences who couldn’t care less about George Floyd are causing chaos all over the country. It has been my experience that there are bad actors in every walk of life, and the police are no exception. I do believe though that the vast majority of the approximately 850,000 law enforcement personnel in this country are good and are a very integral part of our civilized society. It has also been my experience that the vast majority of people don’t care about race, they just want to live their lives and see everyone get along. Race, to most people is not a determining factor in how they get along with each other in their day to day lives, but politicians and the media are always on the quick to interject it into everything. Don’t by the hype,
Just be kind to each other, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and make each and every day the day that you want it to be!!

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