Welcome back my friends, Wilk here from Wilksworld.com and in episode 17 I am discussing the sadness that is the way that some people are treating others in and on social media sites.
We all know the kind, those #KeyboardWarriors that we all know about, those that say the most vile and savage things to people they know they will never meet. It is my opinion that most of these members of what I call the Basement Dwelling Bedwetter Brigade are unfortunately unable, or have traditionally in most cases been those that were likely picked on and bullied most of their lives and were never really able to stick up for or never had the courage to stand up for themselves.
The dumpster fire known as social media has given these #keyboardwarriors a forum to take their swing, get a punch in because they’ve never been able to do it in real life and what better time to do it than when your “opponent” is someone who you’ll never have to really interact with in real life, right? These folks are in fact hurting and miserable people that want everyone else to be as miserable as they are, so what do hurt people do, they hurt people.
In this weeks feel good story I talk about a gentleman out of Alabama by the name of Rodney Smith that started a movement called the 50 Yard Challenge where he inspires and encourages youngsters from ages 7 to 17 to go out and mow 50 lawns for free as part of this challenge. Rodney has inspired upwards of 1000 young people to start this challenge and he has personally traveled to around 25 states to give those who have completed the challenge a special gift. This is a special man making special things happen, way to go Rodney! (Read more here)
As always, please subscribe to the Derate The Hate podcast wherever you get your audio, leave us a review from a desktop or laptop computer, share us with your friends any way you can and above all, when you get back out there, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and make each and every day the day that you want it to be…
Welcome back my friends! Wilk here again from WilksWorld.com with Episode 16 of our #DerateTheHate podcast talking about not only making good memories, but more importantly, sharing those good times in life on Facebook so when they pop up as memories one, two or several years down the road, you have something good to look back on instead of all the negativity.
We may be living through some of the most turbulent times in human history, and my beautiful wife made a fantastic point the other day in a post on Facebook. As anyone who is a regular listener knows, or who has read some of my blog at WilksOpinion.com, I oftentimes refer to social media as a dumpster fire of Hate, Lies and Misinformation. My wife’s post from the other day speaks for itself and read as follows:
“My little guy!…where does the time go? I love these memories and posts that remind me of times years ago and looking back on them.
He is now 11 and, right now, is with his scout patrol working on balloon rockets in the park. While I sit here and watch the young man I’m raising, and watching other families playing with their children, I can’t help but be thankful for theses little reminders that pop up every day.
There is a reason I don’t post anything about our current state of affairs, political and/or virus related. I see my own relatives and friends going fist for fist arguing about who is right or wrong and why. I frankly can’t stand it and I don’t even look at their posts anymore.
A year from now, two years, five..I want to see memories with my children, my husband and my family. I look forward to these memories and posts year to year!
Are you looking forward to yours?”
With that I’m going to say, when you can get back out among each other, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and make each and every day the day that you want it to be! We’ll catch you next week…
Welcome back my friends to the Derate the Hate Podcast! I am Wilk from WilksWorld.com and this is Episode 15, which is actually the 4th and final episode in a series we are doing on the book by Dr. Stephen Covey, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”.
In Episodes 12, 13 and 14, I went through Habits one through five, so if you missed those episodes, please step back and check those out. In this episode, I finish this series by discussing Habit 6, “Synergize” and Habit 7, “Sharpen the Saw”.
Habits 1 through 3 are really interpersonal habits that one must work on within themselves to truly be fulfilled and effective. Habits 3 through 6 are outward habits are then what it takes to become effectively interdependent with others.
Habit 6, synergize, depends highly upon and works in complete conjunction with habits 4 and 5. To properly synergize, one must “Think Win Win” and “Seek First to Understand, then to be Understood”. Synergize is the art of coming up with a common solution that is not a compromise, but a solution that is better than the sum of it’s parts.
Habit 7 is then “Sharpening the Saw”. There are 4 dimensions to one’s being. 1.) Mental 2.) Physical 3.) Social and 4.) Spiritual… All are different but vitally important. Sharpening the saw is basically working on and “exercising” each of these dimensions on a regular basis in order to stay “sharp”. Dr. Covey does a great job of emphasizing the importance of “Sharpening the Saw”.
In this week’s feel good story, I talk about a young man, a Boy scout, in East Liverpool, OH that stopped to help a deputy that was trying to remove a fallen tree from a roadway. As this Boy Scout Justin Tatsch said, “Boy Scouts should do good deeds daily”.
That will wrap up episode 15 of the Derate the Hate podcast. As you are able, or when you are out among each other, please be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and make each and every day the day you want it to be.
Welcome back my friends for episode 14 of the Derate the Hate podcast which is actually part 3 of a mini-series I am doing on Dr. Stephen Covey’s, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”. In part three, I go in to habits 4 & 5 which are “think win, win” and “seek first to understand, then to be understood”.
Habits 4 & 5 go very much hand and hand, and a perfect example of a complete failure of these 2 habits is the current political climate. A win, win mentality, Habit 4, is the concept that 2 parties in a negotiation look for some type of common ground in which both parties come out the winner or a 3rd option known as “win, win or no deal” is the result. Dr. Covey does a much better job of giving an in-depth explanation of the concept, or habit of win, win, but it is essential in successful negotiations if both parties are to come out of a negotiation feeling satisfied and accomplished.
Habit 5, “seek first to understand, then to be understood” goes very much hand in hand, and is essential in accomplishing the win, win in a negotiation. Imagine going in to each negotiation and saying to the other party, “let’s see if we can come to a win,win result in our negotiations, does that sound ok with you?”, (they would likely say yes), then you’d say, “I would like you to start, and I want to be totally clear on your position before I begin, would that be OK?”. Can you imagine how much differently the negotiations may go?
I’ve said if before and I’ll say it again, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” is a life changing book and a must read for everyone who wants to better their life. Next week we will continue and conclude our mini-series when I discuss habits 6 & 7.
For this week’s feel good story, we have to go way back in the way back machine to July 1950 in Syracuse, NY. I’m not sure how this article came across my reading list this week but I’m glad it did, because good values are timeless and like I’ve said so many times before, character is what you do when nobody is looking and this is a great example. In July of 1950, Mary Sakowski was working as a cleaning lady at a local bank, when on her fourth night, she found 4 stacks of money on the floor behind the teller counter. Find out what this exceptional woman who was making a whopping $18 per week did with the $40,000 by checking out our podcast or the article here.
With that I’ll just say, don’t let all the political theater or doom and gloom media get you down, get out there and be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got and remember, it’s up to you to make each and every day the day you want it to be.
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Welcome back my friends! In this episode of the Derate the Hate podcast, the 2nd in a mini-series on the book “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” by Dr. Stephen Covey, I am giving a brief overview of habits 1 and 2. I am Wilk from WilksWorld.com, and as I’ve stated on more than plenty of occasions, my life would not be what it is without this book by Dr. Covey.
In Episode 12 I talked about the first habit, being proactive, and gaining the understanding that we as individuals have the power to react to the circumstances in our life. We are responsible, “able” to choose how we “respond” to the things we face in life and it is up to us, as individuals to make the best of the situations we are presented with.
In this episode, we briefly venture in to habits 2 and 3 of “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” Habit 2 can be thought of as the Leadership habit, “Begin with the End in Mind”. I talk about a visualization exercise that Dr. Covey uses when explaining habit 2. Habit 2 involves developing a mission statement, a personal value system for your life by which you will live today with the ultimate goal of excellent things. Leadership and management are very different things, and beyond of the scope of this single podcast, but Dr. Covey does a fantastic job of differentiating the 2 in his book.
Habit 3 is then the management habit. “Put First Things First”. Imagine a square, separated into 4 quadrants, the top left being urgent and important, the top right being important but not urgent, the bottom left being urgent but not important and finally the bottom right being not urgent and not important. By gaining an understanding of this graphic, you begin to understand that quadrant one is all problems and crisis, quadrant 4 has nothing of value and everything in life of real importance falls in quadrant 2. This is only briefly covered in this podcast, but is described in much better detail in Dr. Covey’s book, and will likely be covered in greater detail in coming episodes of this podcast.
Our good news story of the week is about a former high school football standout and former Marine from Michigan by the name of Phillip Blanks. Mr. Blanks was in the right place at the right time and sprang in to action instinctively when a young woman was forced to throw her young child off a 3rd floor balcony during an apartment fire. Unfortunately the mother did not survive, but thanks to the quick action of Phillip Blanks, he was able to make a diving catch and saved the toddler from hitting the ground. This baby is safe thanks to this courageous young man and thank God for his heroic actions. Good job Phillip Blanks, keep being the hero you are!! See the article and video here.
We’ll continue our mini-series on “The Seven Habit’s of Highly Effective People” next week, so until then, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and make each and every day the day that you want it to be!
Welcome back my friends for Episode 12 of the Derate the Hate podcast. Episode 12 will be the start of a series of episodes dedicated to the book by Dr. Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I am Wilk from WilksWorld.com, and every thing I do with this podcast is done with the intention of Bettering the World, One Attitude at a Time.
Bettering the world begins with bettering one’s self, and I truly would not be who I am or have the life I do without having read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
In this episode, I discuss the first of the seven habits, Be Proactive. Being proactive comes with maturity and the ability to be responsible. Dr. Covey explains “responsible” in a bit of a different way than most people think of the definition, he breaks it down in to two parts. Being able to effectively choose your response to whatever life throws at you. Once you become “able” to “respond” effectively in a mature way, you are on your way to being proactive and making mature, value based decisions.
Like much of what I talk about in the Derate The Hate podcast, being able to make mature, value based logical decisions works out far better in most all scenarios than emotion based reactions. One’s life is largely based on the actions and decisions they make, not the actions of others as some would have you believe. When someone is constantly told they are a victim or somehow oppressed, they begin to feel powerless and fall in to a toxic cycle of not trying, or ignoring opportunities to better their lot in life. Being proactive is taking back the power, coming to the realization that being able to choose how to respond to things out of your control is the ultimate power, and that is what leads to a positive and happy life. A negative determinism in one’s life does not constitute a life sentence when one becomes proactive and responsible.
As I say at the close of every episode, it is up to you to make each and every day the day that you want it to be. This statement is very true and it all begins with becoming Proactive and Responsible.
Join us next week when we dive in to habit 2 of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Dr. Stephen Covey. Please subscribe wherever you get your audio and podcasts and spread the word, share us with your friends. Until next week, this is Wilk saying thank you very much and have a great week!
Welcome back my friends for Episode 11 of the Derate the Hate podcast! With all the chaos and civil unrest our country is currently facing, what would a podcast about turning down the hate be if we didn’t discuss the matter. I’m Wilk from WilksWorld.com, and I’m not going to get in to a lot of specifics here in this particular episode, as each of these topics could most certainly warrant their own, but today I am going to talk about Virtue Signaling, Privilege and Cancel Culture.
As defined by Oxford Languages, Virtue Signaling means “The action or practice of publicly expressing opinions or sentiments intended to demonstrate one’s good character or the moral correctness of one’s position on a particular issue” and there are many right now that feel the need to jump and run to the nearest camera or microphone to say something or perform some symbolic act to prove what a great person &/or company they are, and is this really helpful? Some of what we are seeing is way over the top, and pandering needs to be called out for pandering.
My podcast is geared towards and meant to create a dialogue, a constructive conversation between those of differing opinions in an effort to help one another better understand each other and take down the hate between people of differing opinions. It is my opinion that accusing all white people of privilege, or assuming all whites are racist, is in and of itself a racist concept. I was born to a poor couple in northwest Iowa and remained poor throughout my childhood. My greatest privilege growing up, and to this very day, is the fact that I was born to married parents who remained married and raised my sisters and me, all the while together until my father passed away. That privilege has nothing to do with skin color, but that structure and the values the bestowed upon me helped me become the man I am today.
Anyone with a sane mind and eyes can see that the cancel culture we are currently experiencing is very toxic and must come to an end. Without understanding our past, we have no future. Without being able to discuss our differences in a civil manner, we can never live in peace. Yet there are many among us right now who will go to great lengths, often times violent and sickening lengths, to silence those with whom they disagree or destroy symbols of the past in an attempt to somehow right the wrongs of the past. This is toxic and causing many more problems than it is solving.
Like I said, this is a very condensed version of what these topics could be, and there will be much more on these topics to come in future episodes. I will also discuss some of this subject matter in an upcoming video for wilksopinion.com on our WilksWorld youtube channel. Please check out all our sites and content. Subscribe, share and leave us a review.
Ultimately, and above all things, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and make each and every day the day that you want it to be…
Welcome back my friends to the Derate the Hate podcast. Wilk here from WilksWorld.com with the 10th episode of our podcast. I cannot believe it’s been 10 weeks since we started this podcast. I want to express my sincere appreciation for all those who are supporting us and our podcast. If you would please, jump on a computer or laptop and subscribe wherever you get your podcasts and leave us a review, and of course, share us with your friends or whoever you may think would benefit!
OK, so in episode 10 I’m pointing out something that has been one of my greatest flaws as someone who tends to be a people pleaser. All too often, many of us find it easier to say YES when the answer really should be NO. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where someone asked you a favor, or to do something you really didn’t want to or didn’t have the time to do, but you said yes anyway, almost out of instinct. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Many of us find ourselves saying yes to things we should not simply because we don’t want to appear rude or confrontational, but saying NO is not rude, it is necessary in many situations…
Saying yes when we should have said no can lead to animosity, resentment and to some degree degrade our self-worth leading to one of the worst kinds of hate, self-hate. As an adult, we are responsible for our own happiness and as such have to take accountability for our actions. If we say yes to doing something that we should have said no to, we have taken what first appears to be the easy route but leads to worse consequences. This concept is also important in parenting where NO is often the correct answer but for the sake of ease we choose the easy YES and a prime parenting opportunity is lost to an emotional response where a logical solution was needed. This is something I personally have worked hard to correct in my life and hopefully something I say in this episode can steer you in the right direction.
In this weeks feel good story I talk about the young Tetreau sisters in Kelowna, B.C. who’s lemonade stand went missing under questionable circumstances and a stranger came to the rescue and built them a new one. This great story is about good people helping good people and we need more of this during the extraordinary and troubling times.
Until next week, I want to again express my deepest gratitude for the support and say thank you for listening and sharing. When you can get back out there, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and make each and every day the day that you want it to be!
Welcome back my friends to the Derate the Hate podcast. I am Wilk from WilksWorld.com and in this episode I am talking about the importance of Delayed Gratification. In a world of smart phones, 24 hour news cycles, any type of entertainment available at any time with the touch of a button, we’ve become conditioned to expect everything at a moments notice and if we don’t get it, we become frustrated and that frustration leads to a pattern of unhappiness. I give the example of growing up and waiting all week to sit on the floor with my cereal on Saturday morning and watching the cartoons, when we had a TV. This is a stark contrast to the kids nowadays that have YouTube and 24 hour cartoon channels. What do they really have to look forward to and can they really be happy without that sense of anticipation, (when it leads to something good they’ve been waiting for?). I think not, and while a person can only be disappointed by their own expectations, as individuals, we must learn to turn down the expectations, step back and appreciate that many of the good things in life take time.
My garden, and the idea of growing food from seeds is the best example in my life that exemplifies the idea of delayed gratification. At the time of this recording in mid-June, my garden is popping good, but requires much work and what keeps me going is knowing there will be large amounts of food for my family and I to enjoy in the coming year.
As I do each week, I like to feature a story that stands out to me as a feel good that contrasts all the doom and gloom stories that we see in most media. This week a talk about a gentlemen from the suburbs of Detroit named Jamie Lince that fixes up old or beat up bicycles and gives them to random strangers in Detroit who look like they could benefit from a good bike. He providing an example for his kids in which he want’s his kids to do good for other people. He’s trying to pass along the mindset to his children that just because people’s circumstances may be different, we should be doing good for all people. Like he says, “I just smile, smile and say I’m just a guy who wants to show you somebody cares- somebody who’s different from you cares. It’s not all about race and color, and not everybody sees color and that’s the main thing I want to show my children. There may be differences in finances and what people have, but that’s as far as it goes. I don’t want my kids to see color or see the hurt and hate in the world and that’s one way I can show it to them. I don’t have money to give people, but I have time and bikes.” Check out the article about Jamie and his Ricky Baggy bikes hobby here.
As always, when you get a chance to get out among the people, be kind to each other, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and make each and every day the day that you want it to be!
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Welcome back my friends! Wilk from WilksWorld.com here with Episode 8 of the Derate the Hate podcast. We all know at least one person that has a complete inability to see the positive in anything, someone that has nothing positive to say and is always spreading negativity. In this episode I talk about how being positive in the initial part of any conversation can guide the way that conversation can go and the chain reaction effect of positivity or negativity in the people with which you may be interacting. Much like the financial principle that you are the average of the 5 people you associate with most, it is my opinion that you are incapable of being a happy and positive person if the people you associate with most are always negative and miserable. I have a sign in my office that says “3 ways to fail at everything in life” 1. Complain about everything 2. Never be grateful 3. Blame others for your problems. I contend that those who are constantly complaining about everything are both incapable of being happy and will always be a failure. One may have temporary successes such as athletes and movie stars and so forth, but if they are doing nothing but complaining, they are miserable people and are truly failures at life. Whether famous or not, someone who complains all the time is not someone to be around or they will bring you down with them…
Surround yourself whenever possible with positive people, those who have the ability to spread cheer and positivity rather than constant misery and negativity. If you don’t, soon you will be the one that is spreading nothing but misery, because as I’ve said, Misery Loves Company.
Whenever you get the opportunity to get out among the people, be kind to each other, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and remember that it’s up to you to make each day the day you want it to be!