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Episode 13: Personal Leadership and Management, Habits 2 & 3

July 15, 2020 wilkwilkinson 0 Comments

In this episode, we briefly venture in to habits 2 and 3 of “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” Habit 2 can be thought of as the Leadership habit, “Begin with the End in Mind”. I talk about a visualization exercise that Dr. Covey uses when explaining habit 2. Habit 2 involves developing a mission statement, a personal value system for your life by which you will live today with the ultimate goal of excellent things. Leadership and management are very different things, and beyond of the scope of this single podcast, but Dr. Covey does a fantastic job of differentiating the 2 in his book.
Habit 3 is then the management habit. “Put First Things First”.

Episode 12: Be Proactive, Be Responsible

July 9, 2020 wilkwilkinson 0 Comments

Like much of what I talk about in the Derate The Hate podcast, being able to make mature, value based logical decisions works out far better in most all scenarios than emotion based reactions. One’s life is largely based on the actions and decisions they make, not the actions of others as some would have you believe. When someone is constantly told they are a victim or somehow oppressed, they begin to feel powerless and fall in to a toxic cycle of not trying, or ignoring opportunities to better their lot in life. Being proactive is taking back the power, coming to the realization that being able to choose how to respond to things out of your control is the ultimate power, and that is what leads to a positive and happy life.

Episode 11: Virtue Signaling, Privilege and Cancel Culture

July 1, 2020 wilkwilkinson 0 Comments

My podcast is geared towards and meant to create a dialogue, a constructive conversation between those of differing opinions in an effort to help one another better understand each other and take down the hate between people of differing opinions. It is my opinion that accusing all white people of privilege, or assuming all whites are racist, is in and of itself a racist concept. I was born to a poor couple in northwest Iowa and remained poor throughout my childhood. My greatest privilege growing up, and to this very day, is the fact that I was born to married parents who remained married and raised my sisters and me, all the while together until my father passed away.

Episode 10: Yes is Easy, but NO is the Right Answer

June 25, 2020 wilkwilkinson 0 Comments

in episode 10 I’m pointing out something that has been one of my greatest flaws as someone who tends to be a people pleaser. All too often, many of us find it easier to say YES when the answer really should be NO. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where someone asked you a favor, or to do something you really didn’t want to or didn’t have the time to do, but you said yes anyway, almost out of instinct. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Episode 9: Delayed Gratification

June 17, 2020 wilkwilkinson 0 Comments

In a world of smart phones, 24 hour news cycles, any type of entertainment available at any time with the touch of a button, we’ve become conditioned to expect everything at a moments notice and if we don’t get it, we become frustrated and that frustration leads to a pattern of unhappiness. I give the example of growing up and waiting all week to sit on the floor with my cereal on Saturday morning and watching the cartoons, when we had a TV. This is a stark contrast to the kids nowadays that have YouTube and 24 hour cartoon channels.

Episode 8: Misery Loves Company

June 10, 2020 wilkwilkinson 0 Comments

We all know at least one person that has a complete inability to see the positive in anything, someone that has nothing positive to say and is always spreading negativity. In this episode I talk about how being positive in the initial part of any conversation can guide the way that conversation can go and the chain reaction effect of positivity or negativity in the people with which you may be interacting. Much like the financial principle that you are the average of the 5 people you associate with most, it is my opinion that you are incapable of being a happy and positive person if the people you associate with most are always negative and miserable.

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