It does not matter what color your skin is, or what sex or place of origin you belong to that makes for real diversity. None of that should matter, and to most people these days, it really doesn’t. The only diversity that really matters is the diversity of thoughts and ideas.
We are living through some of the most politically polarized times in the last 155 years, and I believe that is strongly in part due to the rhetoric spewed by our political class and the main stream media. I call this #PoliticalTheater, The #RealHateSpeech and I believe it’s done by design. Instead of trying to unite us on what we all have in common, and the greatness within our country, much of what is spread by the political mouthpieces and their cronies in the main stream media is meant to divide, confuse, and whip people into an emotional frenzy.
I’m calling this episode, Labels, Get out of the Box! There is very little that drives me more crazy than those who are constantly trying to divide everyone up in to little categories, put everyone in a box and then label it, whatever… I am very much my own person and live by a moral compass and set of rules that years of lessons &/or mistakes and the resulting wisdom has set for me. I don’t need some politician and their cronies in the media to define who I am, how I should act, what I should think or what have you. Too often nowadays the powers that be are stringently trying to divide us into groups so they can retain power by pandering to whatever “Box” they think will best suit their needs at the time.
There is a reason I don’t post anything about our current state of affairs, political and/or virus related. I see my own relatives and friends going fist for fist arguing about who is right or wrong and why. I frankly can’t stand it and I don’t even look at their posts anymore.
A year from now, two years, five..I want to see memories with my children, my husband and my family. I look forward to these memories and posts year to year!
Are you looking forward to yours?
Habits 1 through 3 are really interpersonal habits that one must work on within themselves to truly be fulfilled and effective. Habits 3 through 6 are outward habits are then what it takes to become effectively interdependent with others.
Habit 6, synergize, depends highly upon and works in complete conjunction with habits 4 and 5. To properly synergize, one must “Think Win Win” and “Seek First to Understand, then to be Understood”. Synergize is the art of coming up with a common solution that is not a compromise, but a solution that is better than the sum of it’s parts.
Habit 7 is then “Sharpening the Saw”. There are 4 dimensions to one’s being. 1.) Mental 2.) Physical 3.) Social and 4.) Spiritual… All are different but vitally important. Sharpening the saw is basically working on and “exercising” each of these dimensions on a regular basis in order to stay “sharp”. Dr. Covey does a great job of emphasizing the importance of “Sharpening the Saw”.
Habits 4 & 5 go very much hand and hand, and a perfect example of a complete failure of these 2 habits is the current political climate. A win, win mentality, Habit 4, is the concept that 2 parties in a negotiation look for some type of common ground in which both parties come out the winner or a 3rd option known as “win, win or no deal” is the result. Dr. Covey does a much better job of giving an in-depth explanation of the concept, or habit of win, win, but it is essential in successful negotiations if both parties are to come out of a negotiation feeling satisfied and accomplished.
Habit 5, “seek first to understand, then to be understood” goes very much hand in hand, and is essential in accomplishing the win, win in a negotiation.
In this episode, we briefly venture in to habits 2 and 3 of “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” Habit 2 can be thought of as the Leadership habit, “Begin with the End in Mind”. I talk about a visualization exercise that Dr. Covey uses when explaining habit 2. Habit 2 involves developing a mission statement, a personal value system for your life by which you will live today with the ultimate goal of excellent things. Leadership and management are very different things, and beyond of the scope of this single podcast, but Dr. Covey does a fantastic job of differentiating the 2 in his book.
Habit 3 is then the management habit. “Put First Things First”.
Like much of what I talk about in the Derate The Hate podcast, being able to make mature, value based logical decisions works out far better in most all scenarios than emotion based reactions. One’s life is largely based on the actions and decisions they make, not the actions of others as some would have you believe. When someone is constantly told they are a victim or somehow oppressed, they begin to feel powerless and fall in to a toxic cycle of not trying, or ignoring opportunities to better their lot in life. Being proactive is taking back the power, coming to the realization that being able to choose how to respond to things out of your control is the ultimate power, and that is what leads to a positive and happy life.
My podcast is geared towards and meant to create a dialogue, a constructive conversation between those of differing opinions in an effort to help one another better understand each other and take down the hate between people of differing opinions. It is my opinion that accusing all white people of privilege, or assuming all whites are racist, is in and of itself a racist concept. I was born to a poor couple in northwest Iowa and remained poor throughout my childhood. My greatest privilege growing up, and to this very day, is the fact that I was born to married parents who remained married and raised my sisters and me, all the while together until my father passed away.