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MÓNICA GUZMÁN joins Wilk on Episode 104 of the Derate the Hate podcast to discuss her new book "I Never Thought Of It That Way"

Episode 104: “I Never Thought Of It That Way”… with author MÓNICA GUZMÁN

April 13, 2022 wilkwilkinson Uncategorized 1 Comment

Have you ever wondered how to have a meaningful conversation with someone with whom you disagree vehemently on a particular topic? Do you have family members that you disagree with politically, and cannot have a conversation without things becoming heated and toxic? What if there were a book that could teach you “How to Have Fearlessly Curious Conversations in Dangerously Divided Times”? There is, and this week I am honored to have the author of that book on the Derate the Hate podcast to talk about her latest book, “I Never Thought Of It That Way”
Take-aways and Quotes from MÓNICA GUZMÁN
~”Those who are underrepresented in your lives, will always be over-represented in our imaginations”
~Curiosity in 1-to-1 conversations will save us (like no politician, group, or institution can)
~”If there’s one thing that most people on the left and right can agree on, it’s that the way we treat and talk to the other side is broken”
~Monica’s promise: “This book will equip and inspire you to be one level more curious about the people who disagree with you than you have ever been.”

Episode 81 of the Derate The Hate podcast

Episode 81: Road Rage… Hate on the Go!

November 3, 2021 wilkwilkinson Uncategorized 0 Comments

You’re cruising down the highway, passing those in the right lane who obviously don’t have anywhere to go that is quite as important as your time or where you’re headed, and it happens…  Everything was going just as you had hoped and then you come upon that person in the left lane that is creeping along at the speed limit. At first you think, “they’ll see me if I just get a bit closer”, then a minute or two passes, your face starts to get a little hot, then someone passes you on the right, you’ve got no room to get over, you swear under your breath, things in my car are escalating and I’m the only one here, what’s wrong with them, AAAHHHH!!!

I’ve been in the transportation industry for 22 years. Many of those years I’ve spent living on the road as a driver, and the last several managing multiple drivers. If I haven’t seen it, I’ve heard about it, and a lot of times, the IT is not good. In recent years, the nonsense we see on the roads as drivers, whether professional or not, has been getting worse. These several months since the pandemic began have compounded the problem with higher tensions, increased drug & alcohol use, and people losing their minds in general. 

In this episode I share some recent experiences that have happened as I’ve filled in on routes in the big rig. I talk about personal accountability, some statistics, and tips to keep yourself and your loved ones safer on the road. Make sure to thank a trucker today, for they are the ones that keep food on the table and goods of all kinds moving across our great nation.

Episode 8: Misery Loves Company

June 10, 2020 wilkwilkinson Uncategorized 0 Comments

We all know at least one person that has a complete inability to see the positive in anything, someone that has nothing positive to say and is always spreading negativity. In this episode I talk about how being positive in the initial part of any conversation can guide the way that conversation can go and the chain reaction effect of positivity or negativity in the people with which you may be interacting. Much like the financial principle that you are the average of the 5 people you associate with most, it is my opinion that you are incapable of being a happy and positive person if the people you associate with most are always negative and miserable.

Episode 7: Misguided Anger Leads to Chaos

June 2, 2020 wilkwilkinson Uncategorized 0 Comments

Wilk here from WilksWorld.com for another edition of the Derate The Hate podcast. This week we’ve seen terrible riots throughout the country as a result of the death of George Floyd in Minneapolis, MN at the hands of a bad cop. Though race has not been established as a motive, local politicians, doing what politicians do, instantly made it about race and bad actors from all over began taking to the streets. Are all cops racist, do we suffer from institutional racism? The politicians and media would have you believe so, but the facts do not support that narrative. But the media and the politicians, in an effort to whip up emotions take it there immediately and now in Minneapolis alone we’ve seen well in excess of a billion dollars in damages, businesses and lives destroyed, and outside influences who couldn’t care less about George Floyd are causing chaos all over the country. It has been my experience that there are bad actors in every walk of life, and the police are no exception. I do believe though that the vast majority of the approximately 850,000 law enforcement personnel in this country are good and are a very integral part of our civilized society. It has also been my experience that the vast majority of people don’t care about race, they just want to live their lives and see everyone get along. Race, to most people is not a determining factor in how they get along with each other in their day to day lives, but politicians and the media are always on the quick to interject it into everything. Don’t by the hype,
Just be kind to each other, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and make each and every day the day that you want it to be!!

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Episode 6: Yelling is Loss of Control

May 27, 2020 wilkwilkinson Uncategorized 0 Comments

Welcome back my friends for Episode 6 of the Derate The Hate Podcast. Wilk here from WilksWorld.com and today I’m talking about yelling and more specifically, about the idea that yelling means you’ve already lost the argument. Lot’s of people talk about how yelling is ineffective and the damage that is done to the other person when it comes to yelling. Like many things I speak about, I look at the loss of control aspect of yelling and the idea that if we reach the point of yelling, we’ve lost self control, we’ve lost our ability to control our emotions and ultimately lost our ability to effectively use logic and reason to make our point. At this point it’s time to walk away and let things cool down before things are said that cannot be taken back. At a time when domestic violence calls are increasing daily due to the lock downs associated with the Covid-19 crisis, this episode might be something someone needs to hear to keep calm when things are getting a bit tense.
I also give a shout out to a family in Happy Valley, OR that went the extra mile to put flags on the graves of our brave men and women who were lost in battle, men and women who’s graves at Willamette National Cemetery could not be visited this Memorial Day due to the response to the Covid-19 crisis. That feel good story can be seen here.
Things are rough out there with the virus, the lock-downs and all the associated mental, physical and financial fallout associated with these battles. Just remember, we cannot control what happens to us, but we have to control how we react to it. When you can get out among each other again, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and remember that it’s up to you to make each and every day the day you want it to be.