Tag: Fathers

Ken Gordon of DadsofFaith.com joins Wilk on the Derate the Hate podcast to talk about the importance of engaged fathers

The Difference Between a Present Father and an Engaged Father… DTH Episode 144 with Ken Gordon

January 18, 2023 wilkwilkinson Uncategorized 0 Comments

What is the difference between a present father and an engaged father?

It wasn’t until I met this week’s guest that I had ever really thought about that question. I’ve spoke on occasion about the statistics that clearly show the detrimental effects of not having a strong, influential male figure in the life of a child. Until I had this conversation with my new friend Ken Gordon,I really hadn’t thought about how just being present, and truly being engaged in a child’s life, differ so greatly. Do you know the difference between a present father and an engaged father?

Who is Ken Gordon?

Ken Gordon, or Pastor Ken, as he is called by his members, is a pastor, business executive, husband, father, and community leader. Ken has proudly dedicated his entire life to the service of others. A graduate of The Citadel – The Military College of South Carolina, he is a highly sought-after speaker on leadership, public service, civil rights, youth mentoring, and community engagement. Ken brings to the table great wisdom when it comes to being an engaged father vs. a present father. Ken says, “I’m not a subject matter expert, I’ve just failed so many times that I learned to fail forward. We discuss fatherhood after divorce. We dive into the difference between divorce and divorcing your children, generational victimhood and so much more.

Wilk pulls Kendall Qualls conversation from the DTH archives discussing family

The Importance of Family and Family Time… DTH Episode 124

August 31, 2022 wilkwilkinson Uncategorized 0 Comments

The importance of family and family time cannot be overstated. I spoke last week about taking a little time for myself and the family. We enjoyed our little weekend camping trip. I am so grateful for the memories. As I was thinking about the importance of family and family time, I began thinking about an early DTH conversation I had with my friend Kendall Qualls. I’ve pulled that conversation from the DTH archives for this week’s episode.

Wilk and Kevin McGary discuss BLM on episode 88 of the Derate the Hate podcast

Episode 88: REAL Justice, REAL Solutions, EVERY Black Life Matters… with Kevin McGary

December 22, 2021 wilkwilkinson Uncategorized 3 Comments

He saw Black Lives Matter (BLM) yucking it up with ANTIFA, having a grand ol’ time while black and brown businesses were burning, and Kevin McGary knew that something had to change. He figured people would see through the facade, but as things calmed down, and some of the noise subsided, people still didn’t get it…
After realizing himself that people were not accepting the reality that BLM was actually against everything that could actually help the black community, Kevin decided it was time for an alternative. The premise was simple, everything BLM was against, (based on their own site) EveryBLM would be for… Things like fathers, family, capitalism, school choice, pro-life, etc. Basically, REAL proven solutions that would actually help the black community. EveryBLM would be the alternative, promoting what is right and righteous.

Episode 62 Derate the Hate Podcast : Hush Little Baby

Episode 62: Hush Little Baby

June 23, 2021 wilkwilkinson Uncategorized 0 Comments

“Don’t buy your kids all the things you wished you had, teach your kids all the things you wish you’d known” ~author unknown
It’s not the things you give or buy for your children that will make the difference, it’s the lessons we teach and the time we spend that will be what matters.
This Father’s day weekend I was reflecting on a number of things and a few different things stood out. I lost my father 11 years ago, but I was fortunate and blessed enough to have him in my life up until my mid 30s. Many children are not fortunate enough to have a father in their life at all. This is one of the major problems we face as a society. Much more of an issue than most of the nonsense we’re lead to believe are the great problems we face today.

Being a father has been the greatest gift and honor of my lifetime and reading to my daughter daily is one of my great joys. I recently had a conversation with my wife about a book my daughter has me read to her all the time, several times a week in fact. The book is a different version of the classic lullaby “Hush Little Baby”. This wonderful book was written by Sylvia Long. My daughter loves it and in this episode I speak about a very powerful lesson Sylvia Long has conveyed in her version of this classic.