Tag: happiness

Episode 83: Silver Linings, How they can be found

No situation in life has ever been made better by those who constantly beat the drum of negativity and/or victimhood. As someone who spent a large portion of my life with a bad attitude, I can definitively say that statement because I know it to be true. Gratitude is something I speak of often in this podcast, and in my personal and professional life, because I truly believe that you cannot be happy if you are not grateful, and the happy make the world a better place. As such, the unhappy and ungrateful make the world worse, it’s just the nature of things.

How a situation plays out, for better or for worse, often comes as a result of how we react to it. This is why I also often speak of personal accountability. Life tends to be messy, and there are negative things that happen within our lives every day, that if focused upon, can result in more negativity. Those who don’t constantly focus on the negative, are often those who produce more positive results because their minds generally work in a positive results driven mode rather than the negative. I talk about a simple, and personal example, of how this works and how one can find the silver lining in what seems to be a dark cloud.

Episode 80: It Must Be Nice… Envy is an Ugly Emotion

Are  you someone who has worked hard and has some nice things? Are you proud to have those things? Have you ever been confronted by someone who says, “it must be nice” as if you somehow don’t deserve, or didn’t earn those things? Envy is an Ugly Emotion… an emotion that leads to resentment, anger and hate.

In this week’s solo episode I talk about a conversation I had recently had with someone that was confronted with this very scenario. It should come as no surprise, but still does, that there are those who would confront someone who has nice things and say, “it must be nice”, when there are those in politics and the media that drive and perpetuate class envy as they do. We must resist those who constantly attempt to divide us by class through the perpetuation of envy and disdain for those who have more than we do. 

Episode 63: Places You’ve Never Been

Twenty Nine years ago I moved out of my parents for the first time. It’s so hard to believe it was that long ago, but harder to believe all I’ve seen and done over those 29 years. The years have passed and many things have changed, but much of what I learned about life in my late teens and early twenties came as the result of working for my dear friends Rick and his wife Jean at their restaurant RJ’s Bar & Grill in Okoboji, IA.

This week Rick re-posted a quote from Anthony Bourdain (posted by The Ritz, another bar/restaurant in the Okoboji Lakes area) that really stood out to me. The quote really hit home for a number of reasons and brought back many memories. Check out this episode for the details of that quote and many of the great memories and thoughts it stirred up for me.

Life is not just about living, life is about living fully. Too many have forgotten what it means to step out of their comfort zone, to do what they might not normally do, or to have that conversation with a stranger you may have nothing in common with just to see what makes them tick. Make it happen, Enjoy the Ride!

Episode 52: Reticular Activating System (RAS) and The Perpetual Victim Mentality

How does (RAS) Reticular Activating System relate to The Perpetual Victim Mentality?
For many, perception is reality, and when it comes to peoples’ perception of things, it begins with what they are most focused on most of the time. I’ve stated it many times before and I’ll continue to say it, those who constantly drive the victim mentality into their children are committing child abuse. What this does is set the primary focus in that child’s mind that the world is out to get them and as such, their reticular activating system will seek out every opportunity in their day to day lives to manifest that as a reality.  Conversely, as I discussed with Denise Albright in Episode 50 of the podcast, when one focuses on and looks for things to be grateful for, finding gratitude daily becomes easier, and subsequently, happiness and a more fulfilling life becomes the result. It’s a tale of 2 choices with entirely different results.
This is truly an episode that everyone can greatly benefit from! I challenge you to prove me wrong…

Episode 50: Finding Gratitude… Interview with Denise Albright, creator of the Gratitude Finder

As anyone who knows me, or that has listened to the Derate The Hate podcast for any amount of time knows, I truly believe happiness begins and ends with gratitude. I don’t believe it is possible to be a happy person if you are not a grateful person. This past year, my wife purchased the Gratitude Finder from DeniseAlbright.com, not only for herself but for many people as gifts for this past Christmas. After having a look at this product, I knew Denise was someone I wanted to talk to more and share that with my listeners.

In this episode, I am joined by Denise Albright, founder and “She-E-O” of DeniseAlbright.com and creator of the Gratitude Finder journal. When you look at the cover of this journal, there is a phrase on there, “Look for something Great, & you’ll always find it!” and in requesting this interview I found someone great in Denise. Her bright and cheerful organizational stationary products are doing great things for many and it was a true pleasure to have the opportunity to speak with her.

Episode 47: Three Gates, Kindness and the DTH Listener Profile

Who listens to the Derate the Hate podcast?
There are a number of things about the Derate The Hate podcast that people may find appealing. Our listeners may have, or have had anger issues. They generally oppose the “woke” or cancel culture that seems to be prevailing in some circles these days. Real racism has no place on the Derate The Hate podcast, though we know and make a clear distinction between real racism and the FAUX RACISM…
Who are Sufis and what is Sufism?
In this episode I dive a bit into a Sufi Saying from a meme my wife showed me recently. Now, I don’t know much about Sufis, but in this NY Times article they say “Sufi practice focuses on the renunciation of worldly things, purification of the soul and the mystical contemplation of God’s nature.

Episode 37: The Happy Aren’t Hateful and The Hateful Aren’t Happy

The year 2020 has presented all of us with many challenges, some more than others. Some have lost their lives, some have lost loved ones, some have lost livelihoods and some have lost everything they have worked their whole lives to build. Many say “Happy New Year” and it’s just a statement. I want everyone to say “Happy New Year” and have it be their mission statement for 2021. The best way to battle Hate is to be Happy because the Happy aren’t Hateful and the Hateful aren’t Happy!

Episode 30: What Makes You Happy?

What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? What makes you happy? One thing that makes me happy is getting away from it all and doing some hunting in the woods. In the current turbulent times in which we live, we must look within ourselves and do those things that make us happy, because ultimately, life is about being happy and even in these tough times, a life not happy is a wasted life. What makes you happy? DO what makes you happy!

Episode 16: Memories, Make Them Good

There is a reason I don’t post anything about our current state of affairs, political and/or virus related. I see my own relatives and friends going fist for fist arguing about who is right or wrong and why. I frankly can’t stand it and I don’t even look at their posts anymore.

A year from now, two years, five..I want to see memories with my children, my husband and my family. I look forward to these memories and posts year to year!

Are you looking forward to yours?

Episode 9: Delayed Gratification

In a world of smart phones, 24 hour news cycles, any type of entertainment available at any time with the touch of a button, we’ve become conditioned to expect everything at a moments notice and if we don’t get it, we become frustrated and that frustration leads to a pattern of unhappiness. I give the example of growing up and waiting all week to sit on the floor with my cereal on Saturday morning and watching the cartoons, when we had a TV. This is a stark contrast to the kids nowadays that have YouTube and 24 hour cartoon channels.