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Wilk and Sammy Farrens talk Gratitude on DTH episode 160

A Mother’s Legacy; Live a Life of Gratitude… DTH Episode 160 with Sammy Farrens

May 10, 2023 wilkwilkinson 0 Comments

𝐀 𝐌𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫’𝐬 𝐋𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐜𝐲; 𝐋𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐆𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐞
I’ve said so many times and so many ways, life is less about what is happening to us, but how we react to it that makes the difference. Some will look at a field full of beautiful flowers and focus on the weed, while others can look over a field of weeds and pick out the one beautiful flower. How is it that one person who’s been bombarded with life’s challenges can be happy while others who’ve been given so much, struggle with misery and depression. Much of this my friends boils down to gratitude. My guest this week understands this very well, because he carries a mother’s legacy; Live a Life of Gratitude.
𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐢𝐬 𝐒𝐚𝐦𝐦𝐲 𝐅𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐬?
Sammy is a US veteran and has been married for over 20 years to Janet, his high school sweetheart. Together they have 3 amazing children and 3 beautiful grand-babies. During the early months of the pandemic, Sammy, like many did, found him self with some involuntary spare time. He took to watching the news, but the ugliness of all the doom and gloom put him in a place mentally he didn’t want to be. Sammy dove into a couple things he loved, making videos and Dad jokes. That was just the beginning.
𝑳𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒄𝒕 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝑺𝒂𝒎𝒎𝒚 𝒐𝒏𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒆 𝒃𝒚 𝒄𝒉𝒆𝒄𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒇𝒖𝒍𝒍 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒏𝒐𝒕𝒆𝒔 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒆𝒑𝒊𝒔𝒐𝒅𝒆 𝒂𝒕 𝑫𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒆𝑻𝒉𝒆𝑯𝒂𝒕𝒆.𝒄𝒐𝒎.

Wilk is joined by Amir Siddiqui to discuss his book, "From Suicidal to Serene"

Happiness is a Journey, Not a Destination… DTH Episode 153 with Amir Siddiqui

March 22, 2023 wilkwilkinson 0 Comments

𝗛𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝗮 𝗷𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲𝘆, 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗮 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻
I’ve said it time and time again on this podcast, we have a moral obligation to be happy! Friends, smiles and bad moods are contagious, so we owe it to those around us to put in the effort to be happy people. If you are not happy, it is up to you to change it. As my guest this week, Amir Siddiqui put it, “change is inevitable, growth is a choice”. Sometimes it takes a little growth to become the happy you that you should be. Just remember, happiness is a journey, not a destination.
𝗪𝗵𝗼 𝗶𝘀 𝗔𝗺𝗶𝗿 𝗦𝗶𝗱𝗱𝗶𝗾𝘂𝗶?
Following a series of disappointments as a young man, Amir Siddiqui became depressed and suicidal. He spent the next eight years pursuing personal growth and completely turned his life around. Now he aims to help people overcome negative mindsets to live happy, healthy lives.
Amir was born in Pakistan and immigrated to the United States in 1994. He lives in Virginia, where he loves nature, particularly forest bathing, kayaking, and sailing. He also enjoys meditating and yoga. Amir now aspires to become a life coach, so that he may use his life experiences to help others on their journey to happiness.

Victoria Rader joins Wilk on episode 132 of the Derate the Hate podcast

Do You See All the Possibilities? …DTH Episode 132 with Victoria Rader

October 26, 2022 wilkwilkinson 0 Comments

Do You See All the Possibilities?

Sometimes the greatest challenge we face is not what we don’t have or cannot do, but not seeing all the possibilities available to us. Wanting what we don’t have, or not being able to do something we desire can be cause for great frustration, and in some cases, Hate. Sometimes it takes the right coach in order for you to see all the possibilities. Are you as happy as you’d like to be? Is your life one of Peace, Purpose and Prosperity? Do you see all the possibilities?

Who is Victoria Rader ~ Possibility Coach™?

Victoria Rader, or simply Vica, was born in Ukraine, in the fromer USSR, and the Soviet Union did not make it easy or possible to leave the country. Yet the regime could not stop Vica nor her Ukrainian freedom seeking genes from dreaming, creating, pursuing, and ultimately proving that everything is possible.
Through thousands of client sessions and hundreds of speeches and seminars, Vica has witnessed that the cap to one’s fulfillment and performance is defined by their subconscious programming. As a result, Vica and her team have created products and services with a unique proprietary success formula of healing one’s heart, freeing one’s mind, and expanding one’s talents and skills to see, create and live a life of infinite possibilities.

Colin C. Thompson joins Wilk on Episode 131 of the Derate the Hate podcast

Achieve Greatness Through Mental Fitness… DTH Episode 131 with Colin C. Thompson

October 19, 2022 wilkwilkinson 0 Comments

Not a single human being has ever died from a snake bite. In reality, what kills is not the bite, but actually the venom. Venom kills and when you hold on to hate and negative emotions, you are allowing the venom of hate kill your positive mental fitness. Think about the last time that you were filled with hate or negative emotions. How helpless did you feel? My guest this week, Colin C. Thompson has also felt that feeling of helplessness. Fortunately, after building up his mental fitness, Colin was able to avoid negative emotions and the feeling of helplessness.

Colin C. Thompson is a Certified Positive Intelligence Coach and through sharing his own experiences with you, you will gain new insights on mental fitness. By the end of today’s podcast, you will pick up tools to combat hate, improve your relationships, and increase your peace-of-mind and well-being. Your ability to maintain a positive mindset, regardless of what is happening to you, is an ability that you can learn. So ask yourself, can you achieve greatness through mental fitness?

Derate the Hate episode 128, principles for better personal interactions

Grace, Gratitude, Respect and Integrity… DTH Episode 128

September 28, 2022 wilkwilkinson 0 Comments

Do you approach all of your personal interactions with grace, gratitude, respect and integrity mean to you? I make the statement every week on the DTH podcast that we cannot control everything that happens to us in life, but we can control how we react to it. This is really one of the personal accountability pieces that I refer to so often. Imagine if we all approached our personal interactions using these principles.

Grace

As written in an article in Christianity.com, Grace is the Hebrew word chanan or the Greek word charis, meaning “the state of kindness and favor toward someone, often with a focus on a benefit given to the object.” (Strong’s Greek 5485).

Gratitude

Something I talk about probably more often than anything else on the DTH podcast. Gratitude is the quality of being thankful and having a readiness for showing appreciation. I often contend that you cannot be a happy person without being a grateful person.

Respect

Respect is really about treating someone with admiration and appreciation and seeing the humanity within them as a person.

Integrity

Having a strong sense of integrity means you are a person who is honest and of strong moral character.

If all people were to approach their personal interactions with these 4 important principles, can you imagine how much better the world in which we live would be? so again, do you approach all of your personal interactions with grace, gratitude, respect and integrity?

DTH Episode 122 Sometimes the Prize is the Experience Itself

Sometimes the Prize is the Experience Itself… DTH Episode 122

August 17, 2022 wilkwilkinson 0 Comments

Sometimes the prize is the experience itself. In this quick episode, I take on the defeatist attitude that unless you’re going to win, why bother trying. That may be an exaggeration of the way it was said, but this comes as a result of something someone said to my wife recently regarding my participation in a BBQ contest.

So why do people compete in events when they know they have very little, if any chance of winning? Sometimes the prize is the experience itself. I use as an example, the Boston Marathon. Now, I’m in no way comparing a local BBQ contest to the Boston Marathon. To be clear, this is about the lesson, not the contest itself.

The episode is short. I believe the lesson is valuable. I hope you find as much value in the lesson as I did thinking about it. Every contest is not just about winning. Sometimes the experience is all that really matters. Get out there, have some fun! The world needs more of it!!

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