Tag: kindness

Episode 99: How Can You Hate Me When You Don’t Even Know Me? … with Daryl Davis

Have you ever stopped to really think about what the root cause of racism is? Politicians at every level, and those in the media, now more than ever before, speak in platitudes about race, finding new ways to interject race and racism into every story and topic, but do you ever hear them present real solutions that speak to the root cause of racism? The answer, in most cases, is probably NO.

When I was a child, a young man, and even to this day, I find great passion in befriending and just listening to the stories of, and finding wisdom in, those older and more seasoned in the ways of the world than me. Whether it was listening to my parents and their friends talking about growing up in our little mid-western towns, the widow on my paper route who had long since lost her husband and had few visitors, or the old man at the end of the bar that ran out of people to talk to, I loved it all and still do.

Doing the Derate the Hate podcast affords me opportunities to meet and speak with people that I may never otherwise encounter. For this I could not be more grateful. When I get the opportunity to speak with a true legend like Daryl Davis, I am overwhelmed with gratitude. If you do not know who Daryl Davis is, you need to stop what you’re doing and listen to every word he says in this incredible conversation. Daryl Davis is what many would call a superhero in the ranks of race relations. Do you want to know what a man who’s devoted a large portion of his adult life to converting white supremacists says the root cause of racism is? Don’t miss this conversation…

That’s right, Daryl Davis, a black man that has gone right to the source of Hate, having sat face to face with members of the American Nazi party, the KKK and many other organizations of HATE, joins me in this week’s episode of the Derate the Hate podcast. How did Daryl Davis play an instrumental role in rehabilitating upwards of 200 KKK members, leading them to a life of peace and civility rather than Hate? Don’t miss this conversation…

Episode 90: New Year, New You, Nonsense… Every Day is an Opportunity to Better Our Lives

Are you one that makes new year’s resolutions?  Have you ever made a new year’s resolution that you’ve kept, or what’s the longest you’ve stuck with that resolution? On average, more than 80% of new year’s resolutions fail before the second week in February. What if instead of wasting our energy on new year’s resolutions, we make daily resolutions to better our lives?

It was 12 years ago this week that we lost my father. He was way too young and not a day goes by that I don’t think of him and miss him very much. My Dad taught me so many things, but so much of what I learned from him, I did not learn until after he was gone. I am now less than 10 years from the age my Dad was when he passed, and that brings to the forefront in my mind how important every day is. I talk in this episode how we must never take for granted the days we have on this earth, that we do not know when our last day will come, but we should embrace the idea that every day is an opportunity to better our lives.

Episode 67: Embrace Opportunities to Combine Your Passion with Doing Good For Others

What is your passion? What trips your trigger and really gets you revved up? Not only have I had a series of great guests lately, guests who’s passions are doing things to better the world in which we live, but over the past couple weeks I, along with my beautiful wife have participated in a couple charity motorcycle rides.

Riding motorcycle has been a passion of mine since I was a little kid. I bought my first motorcycle when I was 10 years old with money I earned on my own. Being a kid who grew up in a working poor home, this was a great accomplishment.  If you’d like, you can actually read more about that by checking out the blog post”In Memory of my Departed Father on his 57th Birthday” that I wrote several years ago. Nowadays, one of my great passions is getting to ride my Harley-Davidson with my wife, which is often limited to a couple charity rides each year. Over the past couple weeks, we have participated in 2 charity motorcycle rides that have benefited veterans charities and inspired me to do this episode.

Episode 63: Places You’ve Never Been

Twenty Nine years ago I moved out of my parents for the first time. It’s so hard to believe it was that long ago, but harder to believe all I’ve seen and done over those 29 years. The years have passed and many things have changed, but much of what I learned about life in my late teens and early twenties came as the result of working for my dear friends Rick and his wife Jean at their restaurant RJ’s Bar & Grill in Okoboji, IA.

This week Rick re-posted a quote from Anthony Bourdain (posted by The Ritz, another bar/restaurant in the Okoboji Lakes area) that really stood out to me. The quote really hit home for a number of reasons and brought back many memories. Check out this episode for the details of that quote and many of the great memories and thoughts it stirred up for me.

Life is not just about living, life is about living fully. Too many have forgotten what it means to step out of their comfort zone, to do what they might not normally do, or to have that conversation with a stranger you may have nothing in common with just to see what makes them tick. Make it happen, Enjoy the Ride!

Episode 53: Attitude of Gratitude and Personal Accountability Challenge… 1 Year Anniversary Show!

Do you want to change your life? Do you want to change the world?

Join me in doing the DTH 30 day Attitude of Gratitude & Personal Accountability Challenge! As I discussed with Denise Albright back in Episode 50, when you begin to record daily things that you are grateful for, you begin to naturally find more things to be grateful for and as a result become a happier person. This is also in large part due to the reticular activating system which I discuss in Episode 52.
The same can be said for personal accountability. Much of what happens “to us” in life is the result of our own actions and decisions.  By accepting accountability for those actions and decisions, we consciously learn to make better decisions. We as individuals are responsible for our actions, and how we react to outside forces, no matter what those forces may be. No matter how much one wants to deny the truth, much of the “bad” we encounter in life could have been avoided by making better decisions, &/or reacting differently to outside influences.
#gratitude #accountability #PersonalAccountability

Episode 50: Finding Gratitude… Interview with Denise Albright, creator of the Gratitude Finder

As anyone who knows me, or that has listened to the Derate The Hate podcast for any amount of time knows, I truly believe happiness begins and ends with gratitude. I don’t believe it is possible to be a happy person if you are not a grateful person. This past year, my wife purchased the Gratitude Finder from DeniseAlbright.com, not only for herself but for many people as gifts for this past Christmas. After having a look at this product, I knew Denise was someone I wanted to talk to more and share that with my listeners.

In this episode, I am joined by Denise Albright, founder and “She-E-O” of DeniseAlbright.com and creator of the Gratitude Finder journal. When you look at the cover of this journal, there is a phrase on there, “Look for something Great, & you’ll always find it!” and in requesting this interview I found someone great in Denise. Her bright and cheerful organizational stationary products are doing great things for many and it was a true pleasure to have the opportunity to speak with her.