Tag: Mindset

Episode 107: Don’t Be Mad That It’s Over, Be Grateful That It Happened

I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, and it may sound cliche, “Don’t be mad that it’s over, be glad that it happened.” Now, quite often this is said in regards to a relationship that has ended,  but this is not one of those times…

This week I was devastated by some revelations having to do with my deer camp. Those who’ve listened to the podcast with any regularity for any amount of time know that my deer camp was very much my happy place and deer hunting is something I most look forward to each and every year. Check out this episode to find out more about what happened. 

I also dive more into mindset, gratitude and some numbers associated with a study about the number of thoughts a person has on average each day, how many of them are negative and how much of that negative thinking is just recycled negativity from the day before. This is quite important because only we as individuals have the power to change this for ourselves…

This episode also includes some exciting updates on Braver Angels events that are taking place, including a project I’m currently involved in with the former director of the National Institutes of Health, Dr. Francis Collins… Links Below….

Episode 106: Awakening Your Infinite Potential With The Right Mindset… with Heather Hakes

Are we able to manifest the life we truly desire by having the right mindset? For some, this may be hard to believe, yet there are others that are sure of it, because they are living it. I say it in every episode, “Make each and every day the day that you want it to be”. This is, in fact, what I am saying with that statement. It is up to us, as individuals, to manifest the day that we want to have by having the right attitude and believing it is possible.

My guest this week is living her best life, because through the right mindset, she was able to manifest the life she knew was possible.

Heather Hakes is a Mindset Coach, speaker, and author of Take the Leap. She has been featured on numerous podcasts and published in Authority Magazine, Thrive Global, Voyage Denver, and Women Who Empower and Inspire. Heather has reached tens of thousands through her international podcast, Mind Over Matter.

Episode 104: “I Never Thought Of It That Way”… with author MÓNICA GUZMÁN

Have you ever wondered how to have a meaningful conversation with someone with whom you disagree vehemently on a particular topic? Do you have family members that you disagree with politically, and cannot have a conversation without things becoming heated and toxic? What if there were a book that could teach you “How to Have Fearlessly Curious Conversations in Dangerously Divided Times”? There is, and this week I am honored to have the author of that book on the Derate the Hate podcast to talk about her latest book, “I Never Thought Of It That Way”
Take-aways and Quotes from MÓNICA GUZMÁN
~”Those who are underrepresented in your lives, will always be over-represented in our imaginations”
~Curiosity in 1-to-1 conversations will save us (like no politician, group, or institution can)
~”If there’s one thing that most people on the left and right can agree on, it’s that the way we treat and talk to the other side is broken”
~Monica’s promise: “This book will equip and inspire you to be one level more curious about the people who disagree with you than you have ever been.”

Episode 97: “Program Your Life, or Life Will Program You” ~ Les Brown

 Like so many out there, I too find myself, at times, getting discouraged. I was having a conversation the other day, with a gentleman that most people would probably know of, and he asked me, “Wilk, is it too late?”, meaning, is it too late to bridge this divide, are we so full of hate and animosity for those of differing opinions that it cannot be turned around? I said to him, I wouldn’t be doing the Derate the Hate podcast if I felt it was too late. But like I said, I too find myself, at times becoming discouraged, and even at times feeling almost defeated. Sometimes when I think it may be time to give up, something happens…

My wife and I were having a discussion this week about all that we have going on, and she could tell I was a bit discouraged with certain things. She asked me if I had ever heard of Les Brown? I had not, so she sent me a YouTube Video of his. That 58 minute inspirational video was pure gold. Much of what Les talks about in the video was stuff that I have talked about on the DTH podcast, but his delivery and cadence are incredible.  This is a must watch or listen to video if you are unsure of the power of you and your mindset. It also brought to mind for me, Episode 52 of the DTH podcast, so for the first time, I am bringing back a large portion of that episode in this one.  Let me know your thoughts on both!

Episode 96: Overcoming Your Triggered Ego… with Haran Singham

“Don’t just go through life, GROW through life”. That is a phrase I had not heard before, but recently I found out about Haran Singham and his group, “The Happiness Mission”. That phrase means a lot to me, because I have much personal experience in that arena.

As I look back on my life, I see a lot that I am not proud of, but much that I AM proud of as well. We are not, nor should we be, defined by one period or instance in our life. You see, I know that I have GROWN in to a much different person than I used to be.

One very important part of GROWTH is not allowing our EGO to keep us where we are, but putting our ego in check to allow needed growth. Many of us have experienced TRAUMA that helped us to build a wall, a wall that is guarded by our EGO. Why is our EGO always getting triggered? I’ve asked Haran Singham to join me on this week’s DTH podcast to help answer that question.

Episode 83: Silver Linings, How they can be found

No situation in life has ever been made better by those who constantly beat the drum of negativity and/or victimhood. As someone who spent a large portion of my life with a bad attitude, I can definitively say that statement because I know it to be true. Gratitude is something I speak of often in this podcast, and in my personal and professional life, because I truly believe that you cannot be happy if you are not grateful, and the happy make the world a better place. As such, the unhappy and ungrateful make the world worse, it’s just the nature of things.

How a situation plays out, for better or for worse, often comes as a result of how we react to it. This is why I also often speak of personal accountability. Life tends to be messy, and there are negative things that happen within our lives every day, that if focused upon, can result in more negativity. Those who don’t constantly focus on the negative, are often those who produce more positive results because their minds generally work in a positive results driven mode rather than the negative. I talk about a simple, and personal example, of how this works and how one can find the silver lining in what seems to be a dark cloud.