There is a reason I don’t post anything about our current state of affairs, political and/or virus related. I see my own relatives and friends going fist for fist arguing about who is right or wrong and why. I frankly can’t stand it and I don’t even look at their posts anymore.
A year from now, two years, five..I want to see memories with my children, my husband and my family. I look forward to these memories and posts year to year!
Habits 1 through 3 are really interpersonal habits that one must work on within themselves to truly be fulfilled and effective. Habits 3 through 6 are outward habits are then what it takes to become effectively interdependent with others.
Habit 6, synergize, depends highly upon and works in complete conjunction with habits 4 and 5. To properly synergize, one must “Think Win Win” and “Seek First to Understand, then to be Understood”. Synergize is the art of coming up with a common solution that is not a compromise, but a solution that is better than the sum of it’s parts.
Habit 7 is then “Sharpening the Saw”. There are 4 dimensions to one’s being. 1.) Mental 2.) Physical 3.) Social and 4.) Spiritual… All are different but vitally important. Sharpening the saw is basically working on and “exercising” each of these dimensions on a regular basis in order to stay “sharp”. Dr. Covey does a great job of emphasizing the importance of “Sharpening the Saw”.
Habits 4 & 5 go very much hand and hand, and a perfect example of a complete failure of these 2 habits is the current political climate. A win, win mentality, Habit 4, is the concept that 2 parties in a negotiation look for some type of common ground in which both parties come out the winner or a 3rd option known as “win, win or no deal” is the result. Dr. Covey does a much better job of giving an in-depth explanation of the concept, or habit of win, win, but it is essential in successful negotiations if both parties are to come out of a negotiation feeling satisfied and accomplished.
Habit 5, “seek first to understand, then to be understood” goes very much hand in hand, and is essential in accomplishing the win, win in a negotiation.
In this episode, we briefly venture in to habits 2 and 3 of “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” Habit 2 can be thought of as the Leadership habit, “Begin with the End in Mind”. I talk about a visualization exercise that Dr. Covey uses when explaining habit 2. Habit 2 involves developing a mission statement, a personal value system for your life by which you will live today with the ultimate goal of excellent things. Leadership and management are very different things, and beyond of the scope of this single podcast, but Dr. Covey does a fantastic job of differentiating the 2 in his book.
Habit 3 is then the management habit. “Put First Things First”.
We all know at least one person that has a complete inability to see the positive in anything, someone that has nothing positive to say and is always spreading negativity. In this episode I talk about how being positive in the initial part of any conversation can guide the way that conversation can go and the chain reaction effect of positivity or negativity in the people with which you may be interacting. Much like the financial principle that you are the average of the 5 people you associate with most, it is my opinion that you are incapable of being a happy and positive person if the people you associate with most are always negative and miserable.