Episode 6: Yelling is Loss of Control

Welcome back my friends for Episode 6 of the Derate The Hate Podcast. Wilk here from WilksWorld.com and today I’m talking about yelling and more specifically, about the idea that yelling means you’ve already lost the argument. Lot’s of people talk about how yelling is ineffective and the damage that is done to the other person when it comes to yelling. Like many things I speak about, I look at the loss of control aspect of yelling and the idea that if we reach the point of yelling, we’ve lost self control, we’ve lost our ability to control our emotions and ultimately lost our ability to effectively use logic and reason to make our point. At this point it’s time to walk away and let things cool down before things are said that cannot be taken back. At a time when domestic violence calls are increasing daily due to the lock downs associated with the Covid-19 crisis, this episode might be something someone needs to hear to keep calm when things are getting a bit tense.
I also give a shout out to a family in Happy Valley, OR that went the extra mile to put flags on the graves of our brave men and women who were lost in battle, men and women who’s graves at Willamette National Cemetery could not be visited this Memorial Day due to the response to the Covid-19 crisis. That feel good story can be seen here.
Things are rough out there with the virus, the lock-downs and all the associated mental, physical and financial fallout associated with these battles. Just remember, we cannot control what happens to us, but we have to control how we react to it. When you can get out among each other again, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and remember that it’s up to you to make each and every day the day you want it to be.

Special Edition: #FreedomShaming

Reasonable people can disagree on how the Covid-19 crisis has been handled so far, but irrational people often allow their emotions to dictate their actions. Far too often, especially lately, we see people becoming downright hostile to people of differing opinions when it comes to the way the Covid-19 crisis is being handled. Should we stay locked down, should we open everything back up? In this Special edition, (which is the audio from a video blog from wilksopion.com) Wilk goes into how differing opinions should not be mutually exclusive to one idea or the other and people longing for freedom should not be shamed for that state of mind. #FreedomShaming is not the way to go!!

Episode 5: You Made Me Mad!

Welcome back my friends! Wilk from WilksWorld.com here and in episode 5, I am talking about emotions and the importance of not allowing emotions to dictate our actions. Many years ago, my father and I were discussing some issues I was dealing with at the time. He said something that stuck with me from that point on but never fully understood until many years later when I first heard of Austrian Psychotherapist and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl and his teachings that one cannot always control what happens to them, but they can control how they react to it (paraphrasing). Emotions can be a very tricky thing, and to truly be happy and to be someone that is pleasant for others to be around, my life experience has taught me that you must become the master of your emotions instead of allowing your emotions to dictate your actions. Nobody can “make” you do anything, and by conquering your emotions, you no longer allow the actions of others to be any kind of guiding principle on how you react. By becoming self-accountable, you become the master of your own domain, so to speak.
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Above all things, be kind to each other, be grateful every day for what you’ve got, and remember, it’s up to you to make each day what you want it to be.

Episode 4: Smiles and Bad Moods are Contagious

May 13, 2020
Wilk

Welcome back friends. Wilk here from Wilksworld.com for Episode 4 of the Derate the Hate podcast. With all that we are currently faced with as a nation and it’s people, it is very important to understand that it’s not only viruses that are contagious. A smile may be the difference in someone’s day, and your bad mood may be what ruins someone else’s. Smiles and bad moods are every bit as contagious, if not more so, than any virus or illness. Nobody wants to be around a toxic person, so it’s up to you not to be one.

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Above all things, be kind to each other, be grateful every day for what you’ve got, and remember, it’s up to you to make each day what you want it to be.

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Episode 3: Perpetually Offended

May 05, 2020
Wilk

Wilk here again from Wilksworld.com and in Episode 3 we are talking about those who are perpetually offended and how that makes for a toxic and unhappy person. I dropped in a little plug for our apparel line, Failed Understanding Apparel, as this is one of the ways we like to springboard a dialogue between people of opposing views. We all know one, if not multiple people who seem to be perpetually offended. A happy society must be a tolerant society, and those who are perpetually offended are neither tolerant nor happy, but use their perpetually offended mentality in an attempt to manipulate the feelings and actions of those which they disagree. In this week’s “Good Deed” segment I talk about a teenage sophmore named Hita Gupta in Pennsylvania that has taken to providing care packages to the elderly in care homes during this pandemic, packages which include puzzles, adult coloring books and handwritten notes from her nine year old brother. Things like this are so inspiring and show such unbelievable selflessness, I wanted to share her GoFundMe Page in hopes of getting her some more support for this amazing thing she’s doing for the seniors that are currently stuck in isolation.

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As always, be kind to each other, be grateful for what you’ve got, and remember, it’s up to you to make each day what you want it to be. Thank you!!

Episode 2: Please, Thank You, and the Importance of Gratitude


April 28, 2020
Wilk 

In our second episode, I continue on my journey into learning how to use my podcast equipment and I’m hoping we’ve made slight progress from episode one. There is very little in life quite so important to one’s happiness as being grateful. Teaching your children to say please and thank you is an essential part of gratitude and gratitude is an essential part of being a happy person. This is all essential in helping to turn down the hate. From all of us at Wilksworld.com and the Deratethehate.com podcast, thank you for listening, be kind to one another, be grateful for what you’ve got, and remember, it’s up to you to make each day what you want it to be…
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Episode 1: What Hate Is, What Is Not Hate

April 20, 2020

Inaugural episode of the Derate The Hate podcast. Hello, Wilk from WilksWorld.com here and this is my first attempt at doing a podcast, and that comes through loud and clear on our first episode. I’m just trying to figure out my equipment and get over how I sound when I’m not talking, because it’s not at all how it sounds in my head as I’m saying it. All things considered, we’re hoping our content provides some value, as our ultimate goal is Bettering the World, One Attitude at a Time. In this first episode, I go briefly into what hate is and what is not hate. This is obviously too broad a topic to cover in this short episode, but it is just a taste of more to come. Mostly we will be discussing how we can better get along as individuals in hopes of making a broader and bigger difference in the world. Thank you for joining me, please subscribe and comment with what you think. Thanks again!