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Wilk Wilkinson and King Randall talk about The X for Boys School on DTH episode 163

Bettering The World By Being The Change You Want To See… DTH Episode 163 with King Randall, I

May 31, 2023 wilkwilkinson 0 Comments

𝐁𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐥𝐝 𝐁𝐲 𝐁𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐖𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐓𝐨 𝐒𝐞𝐞
Anyone who’s listened to the DTH podcast for long has probably heard me mention the quote “be the change you want to see in the world”. This carries profound meaning in relation to another topic I speak of often, the perpetual victim mentality. Too often, individuals perceive themselves as helpless victims of external circumstances, attributing their struggles solely to external forces beyond their control. What happens when one chooses to fully embrace the essence of the quote, challenges that perception, and helps to empower individuals to take ownership of their actions and attitudes? This shift in mindset fosters a sense of agency, resilience, and hope. This is one of the reasons I’m so passionate about doing the Derate the Hate podcast and having the conversations I’m blessed to have. This is why I like to find guests who are bettering the world by being the change they want to see.
𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐢𝐬 𝐊𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐑𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐥𝐥?
King Randall, I is a 23 year old native of Albany, GA. Seeing a need to help enhance and advance the lives of the young men in his community, he set out to take action to combat the high poverty and crime rates in the southwest Georgia city. In doing so, King founded “The X for Boys, Life Preparatory School” and its related programs. The Life Preparatory School for Boys is a 501(c)3 charitable organization with a mission to teach boys the true meaning of manhood & to be protectors and providers for their communities.
𝙇𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙣𝙚𝙘𝙩 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙆𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙍𝙖𝙣𝙙𝙖𝙡𝙡, 𝙄 𝙗𝙮 𝙘𝙝𝙚𝙘𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙛𝙪𝙡𝙡 𝙨𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙣𝙤𝙩𝙚𝙨 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙚𝙥𝙞𝙨𝙤𝙙𝙚 𝙖𝙩 𝘿𝙚𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙏𝙝𝙚𝙃𝙖𝙩𝙚.𝙘𝙤𝙢.

Wilk Wilkinson and Sandy Stream discuss "The Courage Circle" on DTH Episode 162

Looking Within To Live A Courageous Life… DTH Episode 162 with Sandy Stream

May 24, 2023 wilkwilkinson 0 Comments

𝐋𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐖𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧 𝐓𝐨 𝐋𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐀 𝐂𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐠𝐞𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞

How do you deal with the outside when you don’t feel right on the inside? It may seem like a simple question, but have you ever asked it? Have you ever tried to solve a problem without defining what the problem is? A large part of my self-healing journey had to do with figuring out who I am and dealing with me. Most of the tools needed to live the life you were meant to live are found within you. You may not realize it, but very often it takes looking within to live a courageous life.

𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐢𝐬 𝐒𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐲 𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐦?

Sandy Stream is an author and activist whose work is built on the belief that everyone deserves, and is capable of, finding peace and warrior-like strength within themselves. After teaching law for 20 years, raising her two children, and facing a life full of adversities and lessons, she decided to turn her efforts towards facilitating workshops for young and experienced adults to encourage them to live in peace and power.

𝑳𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒄𝒕 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝑺𝒂𝒏𝒅𝒚 𝑺𝒕𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒎 𝒐𝒏𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒆 𝒃𝒚 𝒄𝒉𝒆𝒄𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒇𝒖𝒍𝒍 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒏𝒐𝒕𝒆𝒔 𝒂𝒕 𝑫𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒆𝑻𝒉𝒆𝑯𝒂𝒕𝒆.𝒄𝒐𝒎.

Wilk Wilkinson is joined by Daniel F. Stone in DTH episode 161

Are Our Political Rivals As Bad As We Think They Are? DTH Episode 161 with Daniel F. Stone

May 17, 2023 wilkwilkinson 0 Comments

𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐎𝐮𝐫 𝐏𝐨𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐑𝐢𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐬 𝐀𝐬 𝐁𝐚𝐝 𝐀𝐬 𝐖𝐞 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐀𝐫𝐞?
For the great majority of my life I had no interest in politics. It was not until after 9/11 that I had any interest whatsoever in anything any politician had to say. The only thing about politics I was certain of was that I didn’t want anything to do with politics. For many that I knew, their stories were similar. In the past decade, or decade and a half, that has steadily been changing. People across the political spectrum are becoming more entrenched in their political beliefs, maybe overconfident in their beliefs, and allowing their political beliefs to become part of their core identities. For some, lines have been drawn and their political rivals are now thought of as enemies. I believe though, the question must be asked; are our political rivals as bad as we think they are?
𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐢𝐬 𝐃𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐞𝐥 𝐅. 𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐧𝐞?
A short time back I came across a fascinating article when searching topics for the podcast. It was a great bonus when I discovered the organization Braver Angels was mentioned in the article. I knew immediately that the author of “Your political rivals aren’t as bad as you think – here’s how misunderstandings amplify hostility”, found at theConversation.com, was someone who I wanted to speak with.

𝑳𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒄𝒕 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝑫𝒂𝒏𝒊𝒆𝒍 𝑭. 𝑺𝒕𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒃𝒚 𝒄𝒉𝒆𝒄𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒇𝒖𝒍𝒍 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒏𝒐𝒕𝒆𝒔 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒆𝒑𝒊𝒔𝒐𝒅𝒆 𝒂𝒕 𝑫𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒆𝑻𝒉𝒆𝑯𝒂𝒕𝒆.𝒄𝒐𝒎.

Wilk and Sammy Farrens talk Gratitude on DTH episode 160

A Mother’s Legacy; Live a Life of Gratitude… DTH Episode 160 with Sammy Farrens

May 10, 2023 wilkwilkinson 0 Comments

𝐀 𝐌𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫’𝐬 𝐋𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐜𝐲; 𝐋𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐆𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐞
I’ve said so many times and so many ways, life is less about what is happening to us, but how we react to it that makes the difference. Some will look at a field full of beautiful flowers and focus on the weed, while others can look over a field of weeds and pick out the one beautiful flower. How is it that one person who’s been bombarded with life’s challenges can be happy while others who’ve been given so much, struggle with misery and depression. Much of this my friends boils down to gratitude. My guest this week understands this very well, because he carries a mother’s legacy; Live a Life of Gratitude.
𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐢𝐬 𝐒𝐚𝐦𝐦𝐲 𝐅𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐬?
Sammy is a US veteran and has been married for over 20 years to Janet, his high school sweetheart. Together they have 3 amazing children and 3 beautiful grand-babies. During the early months of the pandemic, Sammy, like many did, found him self with some involuntary spare time. He took to watching the news, but the ugliness of all the doom and gloom put him in a place mentally he didn’t want to be. Sammy dove into a couple things he loved, making videos and Dad jokes. That was just the beginning.
𝑳𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒄𝒕 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝑺𝒂𝒎𝒎𝒚 𝒐𝒏𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒆 𝒃𝒚 𝒄𝒉𝒆𝒄𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒇𝒖𝒍𝒍 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒏𝒐𝒕𝒆𝒔 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒆𝒑𝒊𝒔𝒐𝒅𝒆 𝒂𝒕 𝑫𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒆𝑻𝒉𝒆𝑯𝒂𝒕𝒆.𝒄𝒐𝒎.

Wilk is joined by Dr. Mahsa Hojat-Khoshniyat in DTH episode 159

When Your Country Is Hijacked By Real Religious Extremists… DTH Episode 159 with Dr. Mahsa Hojat-Khoshniyat

May 3, 2023 wilkwilkinson 0 Comments

𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐂𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐲 𝐈𝐬 𝐇𝐢𝐣𝐚𝐜𝐤𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐲 𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐄𝐱𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐬
You don’t have to look very far these days to find those that would rather run the United States of America down rather than be grateful for all that she has to offer. Have you ever wondered though why so many choose to emigrate from their home countries around the globe to the United States if we are so oppressive? The numbers coming versus those leaving are quite lopsided, and for good reason. I’m not here to discount peoples’ perceived grievances, but things become far more clear when you listen to those who’ve experience real oppression. Things become very different when your country is hijacked by real religious extremists.

𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐢𝐬 𝐃𝐫. 𝐌𝐚𝐡𝐬𝐚 𝐇𝐨𝐣𝐚𝐭-𝐊𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐡𝐧𝐢𝐲𝐚𝐭?
Dr. Mahsa Hojat-Khoshniyat was born in Iran and had the pleasure of growing up with cultural values of empathy, humility, being humble, hardworking, and caring. As a part of her cultural values, from very early on, she learned the importance of human value, dignity and respect despite race, culture, circumstances, socioeconomic status, or education. Mahsa learned the value of perseverance, believing in oneself, standing for what is right, and not giving up even when it gets hard.

Despite being raised with this incredible set of core values, Mahsa spent her early years living a duality of circumstances. The country in which she was born, and loved dearly, had been hijacked by religious extremists. Mahsa, as many do in the country of Iran, lived by one set of rules within the confines of her home and something totally different in public.

Mahsa and her family emigrated from Iran to the United States when she was 20 years old. Dr. Mahsa completed her Bachelor’s in Psychology and Masters in Social Work at UCLA in 2008. She completed her Ph.D. in Clinical Social Work, with an emphasis on psychodynamic treatment in 2016. She has over 12 years of experience in the field of Mental Health, working with hard to reach populations, those struggling with histories of trauma depression anxiety, and relationship difficulties.
𝑳𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝑫𝒓. 𝑴𝒂𝒉𝒔𝒂 𝑯𝒐𝒋𝒂𝒕-𝑲𝒉𝒐𝒔𝒉𝒏𝒊𝒚𝒂𝒕 𝒃𝒚 𝒄𝒉𝒆𝒄𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒇𝒖𝒍𝒍 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒏𝒐𝒕𝒆𝒔 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒆𝒑𝒊𝒔𝒐𝒅𝒆 𝒂𝒕 𝑫𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒆𝑻𝒉𝒆𝑯𝒂𝒕𝒆.𝒄𝒐𝒎.

Wilk is joined by Julian Adorney in DTH Episode 158 to discuss bringing civility back to politics

How Can We Promote a Culture of Civility When Discussing Politics? DTH Episode 158 with Julian Adorney

April 26, 2023 wilkwilkinson 0 Comments

𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐂𝐚𝐧 𝐖𝐞 𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐞 𝐚 𝐂𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐂𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐃𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐮𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐏𝐨𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐬?
Why is it that people these days are so terrified of people of differing opinions and mindsets? Do you think it may have something to do with the toxicity we see in social media? Or maybe it’s the bombardment of “if it bleeds it leads”, hate, violence and bad news from the main stream 24 hour news cycle? Could it be the politicians, outrage entrepreneurs and grievance grifters that are peddling a constant stream of Fear, Outrage and Grievance? Julian Adorney and I tackle the question, how can we promote a culture of civility when discussing politics?

𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐢𝐬 𝐉𝐮𝐥𝐢𝐚𝐧 𝐀𝐝𝐨𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐲?
Julian Adorney is a former political op-ed writer and current nonprofit marketer. I recently became familiar with Julian when he co-authored a piece with Mark Johnson for the FAIR substack entitled “How to bring civility back to our politics”. His work has also been featured in FEE, National Review, Playboy, and Lawrence Reed’s economics anthology Excuse Me, Professor.
Julian brought so much value to this episode, but one take that stood out for me was:
Using toxicity to create outrage may produce short term gains in terms of clicks for the outrage entrepreneur, but it tends to produce a net loss for the movement because it hardens the hearts of those of the opposing mindset.

𝑳𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒄𝒕 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝑱𝒖𝒍𝒊𝒂𝒏 𝑨𝒅𝒐𝒓𝒏𝒆𝒚 𝒐𝒏𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒆 𝒃𝒚 𝒄𝒉𝒆𝒄𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒇𝒖𝒍𝒍 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒏𝒐𝒕𝒆𝒔 𝒂𝒕 𝑫𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒆𝑻𝒉𝒆𝑯𝒂𝒕𝒆.𝒄𝒐𝒎

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