Episode 27: Seek the Similarities and Spread the Love

Welcome back my friends for episode 27 of the Derate The Hate podcast. Wilk here again with another quick episode, wanting to give you something to think about again this week. Every week I ask the questions, what have you done today to make the world a better place? What have you done today to make your life a better life?

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This week I want to ask you this, What if people loved on another for their similarities as quickly as some seem to hate for their trivial differences? We are faced these days with a constant barrage of negativity from politicians, the main stream media and the dumpsterfire known as social media. I will be the first to tell you, I don’t in any way believe things are as bad as those outlets of lies and misinformation would have you believe, but there are those out there that do genuinely hate others for the most trivial of differences. Unfortunately, those are the few that get the most attention for said outlets of information.
As I’ve talked about time and time again in the #DerateTheHate podcast, we as individuals must not allow the worst around us be the biggest influences on us. With each episode, I truly intend to better the world one attitude at a time, and if any of our episodes reach and influence just one person to better their attitude in some way, it’s a truly beautiful thing. With that said, I’ll ask it again and hopefully you think about it and act upon it, what if people loved one another for their similarities as quickly as some hate for their trivial differences? Is there something you can do today to change that?  I bet there is…


This week’s feel good story is simple and sweet but caught my eye because it’s about a youngster who worked to buy a bicycle, only to have it stolen off his front porch. How is this a feel good story you may ask? Well, when young Hunter Wade’s bicycle was stolen, his mother Kelly Wade reached out to a local crime group in their town of St. Joseph, Mo to post the story in hopes of someone having information on who may have taken the bike that young Hunter had worked so hard for. Turns out some locals got together and got Hunter a brand new bicycle to replace the stolen one. You can read more about this story here...
Folks, I want to tell you, when I ask the questions, what have you done today to make your life a better life? What have  you done today to make the world a better place? I ask these questions because I truly believe within my heart that if you ask these questions of yourself every day, you will see your world change. I believe it was Gandhi that said, “be the change you want to see in the world”. I might be wrong but it sounds like something he’d say. I’m going to say, when you are out, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and remember, it’s up to you to make each and every day the day that you want it to be.

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Episode 26: Chaos and Degradation Through Tribalism

Welcome back my friends for Episode 26 of the Derate the Hate podcast. I am Wilk from WilksWorld.com and I am so grateful that you have taken the time to join us for this episode!
It almost goes without saying, but as anyone who’s turned on a television, radio or spent any time on social media knows, we are just a couple weeks away from one of the most contentious elections any of us have witnessed in our lifetimes. As most of our regular listeners know, I do my best to keep political issues out of this podcast, and this episode is no exception. What I am referring to is the chaos and degradation of our society that is resulting from tribalism based on peoples’ political beliefs, driven by politicians and the media.


What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have  you done today to make the world a better place? These two questions do a lot to drive our mission statement at the Derate the Hate podcast, Bettering the world, on attitude at a time. There are many obstacles that stand in the way for each of us as individuals. Being able to recognize those obstacles helps us to overcome them. Once you gain the understanding that many politicians, and those in the media have a vested interest in keeping us divided, mad &/or scared, things start to become much more clear when it comes to the world in which we live. We, as individuals, must not allow those in politics and the media to drive our emotions, to put a wedge between us, and to keep us cowering and waiting for the next bit of chaos or crisis.  We must not allow the division and degradation of our society. Do not allow those who have a vested interest in division make the boundaries by which you live your life.  #DerateTheHate

Have you heard about a young many by the name of Jahkil Jackson and his Project I Am? This youngster has got something very special going on and our regular listeners know, I love a story where ordinary people are doing extraordinary things! I would have to say this young man far surpasses that criteria. At age 8, young Jahkil started Project I Am where he puts together “Blessing Bags” for the homeless and those who have fallen on hard times. You have to check out the podcast to hear more about this youngster and his charity. What a true hero and inspiration this now 12 year old young man is to so many.


Again, I will ask you, what have you done today to make the world a better place? What have you done today to make your life a better life? Get out there, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and remember, it’s up to you to make each and every day the day that you want it to be!

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Episode 25: Be Better by Being Around Better

Welcome back my friends, Wilk here with episode 25 of the Derate the Hate podcast talking today about those with which to associate. Have you ever heard anyone say “you’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”?
There is an old adage that is said in many ways that we are the sum, or average, or product of those with which we associate with most. This is true in so many ways. It has been proven time and time again in business, wealth, and many other measurements of success. Have you ever thought about this adage in terms of attitude and how you treat others? Way back in episode 4 of our podcast I talk about how Smiles and Bad Moods are Contagious. This could not be more true.


I now ask in each of our episodes “What have you done today to make your life a better life?” “What have you done today to make the world a better place?” I would strongly contend that one way to do both is to Be Better by Being Around Better. Those with whom you chose to associate and spend the most time will also be those who you end up emulating.
I believe it is so important to highlight the good that many people do that goes unnoticed. There are a couple things this week I would like to highlight. Each week on our podcast I like to highlight a feel good story that may have been missed or left out of the national media. This week I’d like to highlight a couple great things.
First, this week, Oct. 4-10 is mental illness awareness week. There is an organization that strives to bring awareness and better the lives for those suffering from mental illness the way we at the Derate the Hate podcast strive to better the attitude of everyone who listens. That organization is the National Alliance on Mental Illness. This is an organization doing really great work and is well worth checking out. We are in a period in history unlike any in the lives of those listening to this podcast. At a time, when due to the circumstances surrounding the response to the pandemic, suicides are up, depression is up, relapses in drug and alcohol abuse is up, sharing the hotline for NAMI may make a huge difference in the life of someone. The hotline for the National Alliance on Mental Illness is 1-800-950-6264 (1-800-950-NAMI)


Second, there is a story that I caught out of Albany, NY about a school resource officer, Chris English working in conjunction with Albany school superintendent Kaweeda Adams to implement a “Do the Right Thing” program that encourages and rewards youth that are doing the right thing. “Do the Right Thing” is part of a national non-profit organization doing work to promote good things done by kids that may not otherwise be recognized and rewarded. It is always a beautiful thing to see our law enforcement working in a way which rewards youth and promotes the positive. Great things being done here and you can read more about that here!
With that I’m going to wrap up episode 25. I’ll ask again, what have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? As you’re out there, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and remember, it’s up to you to make each and every day the day that you want it to be!

Episode 24: It’s Not What You Said, It’s How You Said It

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OK, episode 24, It’s not what you said, it’s how you said it. Many have heard this, and for some, it may have been the last thing you heard prior to an argument starting. I’m sure I’ve been there a time or two as I’ve been known to say things from time to time in a way that could have gone better. I think most people probably have. We live in some very polarized times and I think, as most listeners have probably gathered by now, that it is up to each of us to make the world a better place in any way we can. How we interact with one another is a very big part of that.
In our relationships, whether it be with a spouse, a co-worker, someone we coach or mentor, have you ever caught yourself saying something in such a way that you can just tell that the other party is not taking what you’ve said the way you intended? Have you ever stopped to think it may be because of the way you are saying it? I know I have, and that is something that I consciously try to think about when I am trying to make a point to someone at a time in which I may be frustrated or upset for some reason. This is something we should all think about when we are interacting with others. Am I saying this in such a way that they will listen and absorb what I am saying, or has my tone or demeanor put them on defense or shutdown mode.
This week’s feel good story comes to us from Holland, MI where a local brewery, Big Lake Brewing has been brewing a specially crafted beer lately called Healthcare Heroes. Not only are they brewing this in honor of local healthcare workers battling the pandemic, they have donated much of the proceeds from sales of this special brew to said workers at the local Holland, MI hospital. This is a cool story featured on a “One Good Thing” segment at a local station up there WZZM13.  You can find out more about that story here.
It’s all about how we treat one another. What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? These are questions we should all live by. When you’re interacting with others, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and remember, it’s up to you to make each and every day the day that you want it to be!

Episode 23: Keeping the Peace, Peace of Mind

Welcome back my friends, Wilk here from WilksWorld.com with episode 23 of our Derate the Hate podcast and this week it’s all about keeping the peace, not only between us and others but keeping our peace of mind.
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OK, so keeping the peace. Back in Episode 12: Be Proactive, Be Responsible, which was the first of a series I did on the book, “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” by Dr. Stephen Covey, I talked about being responsible, able to choose our response. Much along those same lines, we must understand that it is totally upon us to keep from getting in arguments and bicker sessions that will prove to have no positive result. In a conversation I had many years ago with my departed father I asked, “Dad, what do you hold sacred?”. His answer is something I will never forget, he said, “My sanity, my peace of mind.”
Is arguing with those who’s minds you will never change really the way to keep the peace? Is bickering back and forth with someone who’s attitude you cannot change going to make things better for either of you? Does that argument or bicker session make you any more right or them any more wrong? Is this really the way to give you more peace of mind? I think not, I know not…
What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make this world a better place? This weeks feel good story was sent to me by my Mother-in-Law and it’s about a magical relationship between 2 youngsters that is highlighted in a post on our Derate the Hate Facebook page. This story begins when the soon to be parents of Cooper Hyde find out their son has multiple physical/health issues including down syndrome. They prayed for God to give them strength to get through their coming journey and in so many ways those prayers have been, and continue to be answered. One way was through the magical bond that just months old Cooper started with then 12 year old Zac Wilson and how that relationship has progressed beautifully over the past 6 years. You are definitely going to want to see this story so check it out on our Facebook page.
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That’s going to wrap this episode, so as always, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and remember, it’s up to you to make each and every day the day that you want it to be…

Episode 22: Perception, Is It Reality?

Welcome back my friends to the Derate the Hate podcast! Wilk here again from WilksWorld.com with episode 22 of our podcast and this episode is again inspired by a meme I saw that fits so well with what we try to do here with our Derate the Hate podcast.
Since recording this podcast I did a little more research and the quote from the mentioned meme comes from Amy Weatherly, and it turns out she has a lot more than just one inspiring meme, she has a website and a whole pile of inspiring material and quotes. Check out her stuff, it would be well worth your time.

So back to this week’s episode. All too often people become too absorbed in their perception of things and it becomes their reality. If people are constantly told they are a victim, or they are in some way oppressed, they will see victimhood and oppression in everything they experience and will become incapable of finding the good, finding the joy in everyday things and will constantly be unhappy.
As seen in Amy’s quote from above, gratitude is a key component to joy, and I’ll take it a step further in saying that moments of joy are a key component in a life of happiness. We talk about gratitude a lot in this podcast and first spoke of the importance of gratitude back in Episode 2: The Importance of Gratitude.  If you are not able to see the roses for their beauty without being consumed by the thorns, you cannot see the forest for the trees, (the forest being happiness and the trees being moments of joy). It is imperative if one is going to live a life of happiness to accentuate the positive, deflate and derate the negative, and spread that positivity on to those around us.
In this week’s feel good story I talk about a local restaurant in LaPorte, Co. by the name of Vern’s Place. With the western United States being ravaged by wildfires and small businesses in this country being ravaged by the response to this pandemic, places like Vern’s really shine by stepping up and doing a great deed for those in need. Vern’s place has been serving up free meals to those evacuees of the those firefighters battling the Cameron Peak fire in the mountains near LaPorte there in northern Colorado. You can get more about that story here.
What have you done today to make the world a better place? What have you done today to make your life a better life? Hopefully something you hear in one of our podcasts helps you to do just that! When  you’re out among the people, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and make each and every day the day that you want it to be!

Episode 21: Say No to Losers, Go No Drama for the Win

Welcome back my friends for episode 21 of our Derate the Hate podcast. Wilk here from WilksWorld.com for another edition of our podcast looking to Better the World One Attitude at a Time! I’ll ask again, what have you done today to make the world a better place? What have you done today to make your life a better life?
This week 2 things happened in my personal life that really hit home for me because it reiterated the idea that life is way too short to be unhappy, way too short for DRAMA. I don’t necessarily want to say that losers are always looking for drama, though that may be the case, but those that are always looking to instigate drama tend to spend an awful lot of time losing. If you don’t want to be a loser, and you want to win the hearts and minds of those with whom you disagree, you must go #NoDrama for the win!
This week’s feel good story starts on one side of the country but involves the other side of our country. How’s that you say. A man in New Jersey with aspirations of someday living in California spends time watching San Diego beach cameras on the web. One night, or early morning something special caught his attention. Two men in a mini-van were cleaning the beach and it struck him as something out of the ordinary. He made contact with a local news organization out of San Diego to find out more and thank these guys for what they were doing. It turns out these are 2 homeless men that live in this mini-van with their dog and they clean up after all the beach goers and partiers because they want it to stay beautiful and it’s the right thing to do. You can see more about this uplifting story and these 2 extraordinary gentleman, David Hendon and Marc Gervais here.
With that I’m going to wrap it up and back on out of here for this week and say, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and remember that it is ultimately up to you to make each and every day the day that you want it to be!

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Episode 20: Diversity, of Thoughts and Ideas

Welcome back my friends! Wilk here from WilksWorld.com with our 20th episode of the Derate the Hate podcast. Wow, I can’t believe we’ve got 20 episodes in the box now and I cannot thank all the listeners enough for all the support. If you have not done so, please subscribe wherever you get your audio, leave us a review or rating and share us with your friends. If you’d like to contact Wilk, look for us on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. I’m pretty responsive and look forward to hearing from you!
OK, Episode 20, Diversity, of Thoughts and Ideas. So often we hear people talking about diversity and how we need diversity, but it’s not the diversity that really matters that they are looking for. Like I talked about in Episode 18, people are always trying to divide us up in to boxes with neat little labels thinking that is diversity, but no, that is not the diversity that really matters. It does not matter what color your skin is, or what sex or place of origin you belong to that makes for real diversity. None of that should matter, and to most people these days, it really doesn’t. The only diversity that really matters is the diversity of thoughts and ideas.
So naturally, one needs to ask themselves why is diversity of thoughts and ideas a big deal? We live in what could be described as the most polarized times in most people living today’s lifetime. How did we get here and why? We have gotten to this point because people fear what they don’t know. People have become vulnerable and fear ideas that do not coincide with their own and it has lead to much civil unrest, lost relationships and strife among family members. We must get back to the ability to disagree agreeably or we are doomed as a society.
What have you done today to make the world a better place? What have you done today to make your life a better life? If you are unable to disagree agreeably with others, and cannot see that diversity of thoughts and ideas is far more important than the diversity those who wish to divide us in to little labeled boxes strive for, you’re doing neither.
Our feel good story of the week comes from Brown County, OH where a youngster by the name of Myles Hornschemeir abandoned his little scooter to save a stranded kitten, only to go back later and find that his scooter had been taken. Word of his good deed got around and the folks at the Mt. Orab police department awarded this big hearted youngster with a new scooter that he selflessly abandoned to save this helpless animal. You can read more about this great youngster here.
With that, I’m going to back on out of here and say, when you can get out among the people, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and remember that it is up to you to make each and every day the day that you want it to be!

Episode 19: Political Theater, The Real Hate Speech

Welcome back my friends for episode 19 of our Derate the Hate podcast. Wilk here again from WilksWorld.com and the week I am talking about what I believe to be the #RealHateSpeech and that is Political Theater.
We are living through some of the most politically polarized times in the last 155 years, and I believe that is strongly in part due to the rhetoric spewed by our political class and the main stream media. I call this #PoliticalTheater, The #RealHateSpeech and I believe it’s done by design. Instead of trying to unite us on what we all have in common, and the greatness within our country, much of what is spread by the political mouthpieces and their cronies in the main stream media is meant to divide, confuse, and whip people into an emotional frenzy.
The Derate The Hate podcast is not meant to be political, and I will always do my best to keep particulars of specific political issues out of here. I reserve my opinions on those types of things for my blog WilksOpinion.com, but I believe that this divisive rhetoric and these demagogic tactics often transcend party lines and it can often be very damaging to our relationships and our country as a whole. This podcast’s mission is truly to “Better the World, One Attitude at a Time”, and with that said, I hope the point I am trying to make with this episode hits home for someone, or a bunch of someones… Do not let those within the political class and media manipulate your emotions and drive a wedge between you and those you care about like your friends, family and neighbors. This has become an all too often occurrence in these polarized times.
In this weeks feel good story, I talk about a gentleman by the name of Brady Libby who was visiting friends at Lake Winnipesaukee in New Hampshire. He is being awarded the New Hampshire Hero Award for saving Andy Copanas from drowning. Apparently Copanas got in over his head and began struggling when it caught the attention of Libby. His bravery and quick action saved a life proving that “not all heroes wear capes. (Read More Here). Great job Brady, it’s always great to hear of ordinary people doing extraordinary things!
I’ve started to begin each show by asking what have you done today to make the world a better place, and what have you done today to make your life a better life? I am very certain that those go hand in hand and if each of us started each day by asking those questions of ourselves, things would begin to improve greatly. With that said, when you are out among the people, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and make each and every day the day that you want it to be!

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Episode 18: Labels, Get Out of the Box

Welcome back my friends! Wilk here again for episode 18 of the Derate the Hate podcast and this one was inspired by a meme that I recently saw that said something to the effect of: “The divide in this country is not based on race, class, gender or orientation, but it is divided between the wise and the foolish. The foolish are just always looking to divide us up by race, class, gender and orientation”, or something like that.
I’m calling this episode, Labels, Get out of the Box! There is very little that drives me more crazy than those who are constantly trying to divide everyone up in to little categories, put everyone in a box and then label it, whatever… I am very much my own person and live by a moral compass and set of rules that years of lessons &/or mistakes and the resulting wisdom has set for me. I don’t need some politician and their cronies in the media to define who I am, how I should act, what I should think or what have you. Too often nowadays the powers that be are stringently trying to divide us into groups so they can retain power by pandering to whatever “Box” they think will best suit their needs at the time.
Get out of the box! Shed whatever label it is that has been placed upon you by someone who has as little regard for you as the junk in their garage. Ignore the blatant attempts at pandering and be your own person. Literally, it’s time to think outside the box and remember, it’s up to you to make your life the life you want it to be. What have YOU done today to make the world a better place? What have YOU done today to make YOUR life a better life? Someone pandering to you because they have put you in a box with a pretty little label is not going to do it so it’s up to you!
In this week’s feel good story, I came across a neat little outfit in Burlington, VT that is helping to feed those in need in a different way. You may have heard about the Free Little Libraries where folks put up a little stand in their yards and people drop off books and pick up books as they’d like to for free. Well, in Burlington a group called the One Good Deed Fund has set up multiple sites throughout the county where people can get or drop of food 24 hours a day to get a meal if needed or donate if able. Apparently this is a nationwide movement by an organization called The Little Free Pantry Project. What a neat find this article was. I didn’t know there was such a thing but it is always great to see people giving back and doing for those who need it most. Check out these organizations for yourself by following the links and let them know how you heard about them.
As always, I wrap up by saying that when you can get back out among each other, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and make each and every day the day that you want it to be!