Episode 23: Keeping the Peace, Peace of Mind

Welcome back my friends, Wilk here from WilksWorld.com with episode 23 of our Derate the Hate podcast and this week it’s all about keeping the peace, not only between us and others but keeping our peace of mind.
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OK, so keeping the peace. Back in Episode 12: Be Proactive, Be Responsible, which was the first of a series I did on the book, “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” by Dr. Stephen Covey, I talked about being responsible, able to choose our response. Much along those same lines, we must understand that it is totally upon us to keep from getting in arguments and bicker sessions that will prove to have no positive result. In a conversation I had many years ago with my departed father I asked, “Dad, what do you hold sacred?”. His answer is something I will never forget, he said, “My sanity, my peace of mind.”
Is arguing with those who’s minds you will never change really the way to keep the peace? Is bickering back and forth with someone who’s attitude you cannot change going to make things better for either of you? Does that argument or bicker session make you any more right or them any more wrong? Is this really the way to give you more peace of mind? I think not, I know not…
What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make this world a better place? This weeks feel good story was sent to me by my Mother-in-Law and it’s about a magical relationship between 2 youngsters that is highlighted in a post on our Derate the Hate Facebook page. This story begins when the soon to be parents of Cooper Hyde find out their son has multiple physical/health issues including down syndrome. They prayed for God to give them strength to get through their coming journey and in so many ways those prayers have been, and continue to be answered. One way was through the magical bond that just months old Cooper started with then 12 year old Zac Wilson and how that relationship has progressed beautifully over the past 6 years. You are definitely going to want to see this story so check it out on our Facebook page.
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That’s going to wrap this episode, so as always, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and remember, it’s up to you to make each and every day the day that you want it to be…

Episode 22: Perception, Is It Reality?

Welcome back my friends to the Derate the Hate podcast! Wilk here again from WilksWorld.com with episode 22 of our podcast and this episode is again inspired by a meme I saw that fits so well with what we try to do here with our Derate the Hate podcast.
Since recording this podcast I did a little more research and the quote from the mentioned meme comes from Amy Weatherly, and it turns out she has a lot more than just one inspiring meme, she has a website and a whole pile of inspiring material and quotes. Check out her stuff, it would be well worth your time.

So back to this week’s episode. All too often people become too absorbed in their perception of things and it becomes their reality. If people are constantly told they are a victim, or they are in some way oppressed, they will see victimhood and oppression in everything they experience and will become incapable of finding the good, finding the joy in everyday things and will constantly be unhappy.
As seen in Amy’s quote from above, gratitude is a key component to joy, and I’ll take it a step further in saying that moments of joy are a key component in a life of happiness. We talk about gratitude a lot in this podcast and first spoke of the importance of gratitude back in Episode 2: The Importance of Gratitude.  If you are not able to see the roses for their beauty without being consumed by the thorns, you cannot see the forest for the trees, (the forest being happiness and the trees being moments of joy). It is imperative if one is going to live a life of happiness to accentuate the positive, deflate and derate the negative, and spread that positivity on to those around us.
In this week’s feel good story I talk about a local restaurant in LaPorte, Co. by the name of Vern’s Place. With the western United States being ravaged by wildfires and small businesses in this country being ravaged by the response to this pandemic, places like Vern’s really shine by stepping up and doing a great deed for those in need. Vern’s place has been serving up free meals to those evacuees of the those firefighters battling the Cameron Peak fire in the mountains near LaPorte there in northern Colorado. You can get more about that story here.
What have you done today to make the world a better place? What have you done today to make your life a better life? Hopefully something you hear in one of our podcasts helps you to do just that! When  you’re out among the people, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and make each and every day the day that you want it to be!

Episode 21: Say No to Losers, Go No Drama for the Win

Welcome back my friends for episode 21 of our Derate the Hate podcast. Wilk here from WilksWorld.com for another edition of our podcast looking to Better the World One Attitude at a Time! I’ll ask again, what have you done today to make the world a better place? What have you done today to make your life a better life?
This week 2 things happened in my personal life that really hit home for me because it reiterated the idea that life is way too short to be unhappy, way too short for DRAMA. I don’t necessarily want to say that losers are always looking for drama, though that may be the case, but those that are always looking to instigate drama tend to spend an awful lot of time losing. If you don’t want to be a loser, and you want to win the hearts and minds of those with whom you disagree, you must go #NoDrama for the win!
This week’s feel good story starts on one side of the country but involves the other side of our country. How’s that you say. A man in New Jersey with aspirations of someday living in California spends time watching San Diego beach cameras on the web. One night, or early morning something special caught his attention. Two men in a mini-van were cleaning the beach and it struck him as something out of the ordinary. He made contact with a local news organization out of San Diego to find out more and thank these guys for what they were doing. It turns out these are 2 homeless men that live in this mini-van with their dog and they clean up after all the beach goers and partiers because they want it to stay beautiful and it’s the right thing to do. You can see more about this uplifting story and these 2 extraordinary gentleman, David Hendon and Marc Gervais here.
With that I’m going to wrap it up and back on out of here for this week and say, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and remember that it is ultimately up to you to make each and every day the day that you want it to be!

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Episode 20: Diversity, of Thoughts and Ideas

Welcome back my friends! Wilk here from WilksWorld.com with our 20th episode of the Derate the Hate podcast. Wow, I can’t believe we’ve got 20 episodes in the box now and I cannot thank all the listeners enough for all the support. If you have not done so, please subscribe wherever you get your audio, leave us a review or rating and share us with your friends. If you’d like to contact Wilk, look for us on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. I’m pretty responsive and look forward to hearing from you!
OK, Episode 20, Diversity, of Thoughts and Ideas. So often we hear people talking about diversity and how we need diversity, but it’s not the diversity that really matters that they are looking for. Like I talked about in Episode 18, people are always trying to divide us up in to boxes with neat little labels thinking that is diversity, but no, that is not the diversity that really matters. It does not matter what color your skin is, or what sex or place of origin you belong to that makes for real diversity. None of that should matter, and to most people these days, it really doesn’t. The only diversity that really matters is the diversity of thoughts and ideas.
So naturally, one needs to ask themselves why is diversity of thoughts and ideas a big deal? We live in what could be described as the most polarized times in most people living today’s lifetime. How did we get here and why? We have gotten to this point because people fear what they don’t know. People have become vulnerable and fear ideas that do not coincide with their own and it has lead to much civil unrest, lost relationships and strife among family members. We must get back to the ability to disagree agreeably or we are doomed as a society.
What have you done today to make the world a better place? What have you done today to make your life a better life? If you are unable to disagree agreeably with others, and cannot see that diversity of thoughts and ideas is far more important than the diversity those who wish to divide us in to little labeled boxes strive for, you’re doing neither.
Our feel good story of the week comes from Brown County, OH where a youngster by the name of Myles Hornschemeir abandoned his little scooter to save a stranded kitten, only to go back later and find that his scooter had been taken. Word of his good deed got around and the folks at the Mt. Orab police department awarded this big hearted youngster with a new scooter that he selflessly abandoned to save this helpless animal. You can read more about this great youngster here.
With that, I’m going to back on out of here and say, when you can get out among the people, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and remember that it is up to you to make each and every day the day that you want it to be!

Episode 19: Political Theater, The Real Hate Speech

Welcome back my friends for episode 19 of our Derate the Hate podcast. Wilk here again from WilksWorld.com and the week I am talking about what I believe to be the #RealHateSpeech and that is Political Theater.
We are living through some of the most politically polarized times in the last 155 years, and I believe that is strongly in part due to the rhetoric spewed by our political class and the main stream media. I call this #PoliticalTheater, The #RealHateSpeech and I believe it’s done by design. Instead of trying to unite us on what we all have in common, and the greatness within our country, much of what is spread by the political mouthpieces and their cronies in the main stream media is meant to divide, confuse, and whip people into an emotional frenzy.
The Derate The Hate podcast is not meant to be political, and I will always do my best to keep particulars of specific political issues out of here. I reserve my opinions on those types of things for my blog WilksOpinion.com, but I believe that this divisive rhetoric and these demagogic tactics often transcend party lines and it can often be very damaging to our relationships and our country as a whole. This podcast’s mission is truly to “Better the World, One Attitude at a Time”, and with that said, I hope the point I am trying to make with this episode hits home for someone, or a bunch of someones… Do not let those within the political class and media manipulate your emotions and drive a wedge between you and those you care about like your friends, family and neighbors. This has become an all too often occurrence in these polarized times.
In this weeks feel good story, I talk about a gentleman by the name of Brady Libby who was visiting friends at Lake Winnipesaukee in New Hampshire. He is being awarded the New Hampshire Hero Award for saving Andy Copanas from drowning. Apparently Copanas got in over his head and began struggling when it caught the attention of Libby. His bravery and quick action saved a life proving that “not all heroes wear capes. (Read More Here). Great job Brady, it’s always great to hear of ordinary people doing extraordinary things!
I’ve started to begin each show by asking what have you done today to make the world a better place, and what have you done today to make your life a better life? I am very certain that those go hand in hand and if each of us started each day by asking those questions of ourselves, things would begin to improve greatly. With that said, when you are out among the people, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and make each and every day the day that you want it to be!

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Episode 18: Labels, Get Out of the Box

Welcome back my friends! Wilk here again for episode 18 of the Derate the Hate podcast and this one was inspired by a meme that I recently saw that said something to the effect of: “The divide in this country is not based on race, class, gender or orientation, but it is divided between the wise and the foolish. The foolish are just always looking to divide us up by race, class, gender and orientation”, or something like that.
I’m calling this episode, Labels, Get out of the Box! There is very little that drives me more crazy than those who are constantly trying to divide everyone up in to little categories, put everyone in a box and then label it, whatever… I am very much my own person and live by a moral compass and set of rules that years of lessons &/or mistakes and the resulting wisdom has set for me. I don’t need some politician and their cronies in the media to define who I am, how I should act, what I should think or what have you. Too often nowadays the powers that be are stringently trying to divide us into groups so they can retain power by pandering to whatever “Box” they think will best suit their needs at the time.
Get out of the box! Shed whatever label it is that has been placed upon you by someone who has as little regard for you as the junk in their garage. Ignore the blatant attempts at pandering and be your own person. Literally, it’s time to think outside the box and remember, it’s up to you to make your life the life you want it to be. What have YOU done today to make the world a better place? What have YOU done today to make YOUR life a better life? Someone pandering to you because they have put you in a box with a pretty little label is not going to do it so it’s up to you!
In this week’s feel good story, I came across a neat little outfit in Burlington, VT that is helping to feed those in need in a different way. You may have heard about the Free Little Libraries where folks put up a little stand in their yards and people drop off books and pick up books as they’d like to for free. Well, in Burlington a group called the One Good Deed Fund has set up multiple sites throughout the county where people can get or drop of food 24 hours a day to get a meal if needed or donate if able. Apparently this is a nationwide movement by an organization called The Little Free Pantry Project. What a neat find this article was. I didn’t know there was such a thing but it is always great to see people giving back and doing for those who need it most. Check out these organizations for yourself by following the links and let them know how you heard about them.
As always, I wrap up by saying that when you can get back out among each other, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and make each and every day the day that you want it to be!

Episode 17: Keyboard Warriors

Welcome back my friends, Wilk here from Wilksworld.com and in episode 17 I am discussing the sadness that is the way that some people are treating others in and on social media sites.
We all know the kind, those #KeyboardWarriors that we all know about, those that say the most vile and savage things to people they know they will never meet. It is my opinion that most of these members of what I call the Basement Dwelling Bedwetter Brigade are unfortunately unable, or have traditionally in most cases been those that were likely picked on and bullied most of their lives and were never really able to stick up for or never had the courage to stand up for themselves.
The dumpster fire known as social media has given these #keyboardwarriors a forum to take their swing, get a punch in because they’ve never been able to do it in real life and what better time to do it than when your “opponent” is someone who you’ll never have to really interact with in real life, right? These folks are in fact hurting and miserable people that want everyone else to be as miserable as they are, so what do hurt people do, they hurt people.
In this weeks feel good story I talk about a gentleman out of Alabama by the name of Rodney Smith that started a movement called the 50 Yard Challenge where he inspires and encourages youngsters from ages 7 to 17 to go out and mow 50 lawns for free as part of this challenge. Rodney has inspired upwards of 1000 young people to start this challenge and he has personally traveled to around 25 states to give those who have completed the challenge a special gift. This is a special man making special things happen, way to go Rodney! (Read more here)
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Episode 16: Memories, Make Them Good

Welcome back my friends! Wilk here again from WilksWorld.com with Episode 16 of our #DerateTheHate podcast talking about not only making good memories, but more importantly, sharing those good times in life on Facebook so when they pop up as memories one, two or several years down the road, you have something good to look back on instead of all the negativity.
We may be living through some of the most turbulent times in human history, and my beautiful wife made a fantastic point the other day in a post on Facebook. As anyone who is a regular listener knows, or who has read some of my blog at WilksOpinion.com, I oftentimes refer to social media as a dumpster fire of Hate, Lies and Misinformation. My wife’s post from the other day speaks for itself and read as follows:

“My little guy!…where does the time go? I love these memories and posts that remind me of times years ago and looking back on them.

He is now 11 and, right now, is with his scout patrol working on balloon rockets in the park. While I sit here and watch the young man I’m raising, and watching other families playing with their children, I can’t help but be thankful for theses little reminders that pop up every day.

There is a reason I don’t post anything about our current state of affairs, political and/or virus related. I see my own relatives and friends going fist for fist arguing about who is right or wrong and why. I frankly can’t stand it and I don’t even look at their posts anymore.

A year from now, two years, five..I want to see memories with my children, my husband and my family. I look forward to these memories and posts year to year!

Are you looking forward to yours?”Monikas FG Memory Post

With that I’m going to say, when you can get back out among each other, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and make each and every day the day that you want it to be! We’ll catch you next week…

Episode 15: Synergize for the Prize

Welcome back my friends to the Derate the Hate Podcast! I am Wilk from WilksWorld.com and this is Episode 15, which is actually the 4th and final episode in a series we are doing on the book by Dr. Stephen Covey, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”.
In Episodes 12, 13 and 14, I went through Habits one through five, so if you missed those episodes, please step back and check those out. In this episode, I finish this series by discussing Habit 6, “Synergize” and Habit 7, “Sharpen the Saw”.
Habits 1 through 3 are really interpersonal habits that one must work on within themselves to truly be fulfilled and effective. Habits 3 through 6 are outward habits are then what it takes to become effectively interdependent with others.
Habit 6, synergize, depends highly upon and works in complete conjunction with habits 4 and 5. To properly synergize, one must “Think Win Win” and “Seek First to Understand, then to be Understood”. Synergize is the art of coming up with a common solution that is not a compromise, but a solution that is better than the sum of it’s parts.
Habit 7 is then “Sharpening the Saw”. There are 4 dimensions to one’s being. 1.) Mental 2.) Physical 3.) Social and 4.) Spiritual… All are different but vitally important. Sharpening the saw is basically working on and “exercising” each of these dimensions on a regular basis in order to stay “sharp”. Dr. Covey does a great job of emphasizing the importance of “Sharpening the Saw”.
In this week’s feel good story, I talk about a young man, a Boy scout, in East Liverpool, OH that stopped to help a deputy that was trying to remove a fallen tree from a roadway. As this Boy Scout Justin Tatsch said, “Boy Scouts should do good deeds daily”.
That will wrap up episode 15 of the Derate the Hate podcast. As you are able, or when you are out among each other, please be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got, and make each and every day the day you want it to be.

Episode 14: Win Win and Understand Before Being Understood

Welcome back my friends for episode 14 of the Derate the Hate podcast which is actually part 3 of a mini-series I am doing on Dr. Stephen Covey’s, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”. In part three, I go in to habits 4 & 5 which are “think win, win” and “seek first to understand, then to be understood”.
Habits 4 & 5 go very much hand and hand, and a perfect example of a complete failure of these 2 habits is the current political climate. A win, win mentality, Habit 4, is the concept that 2 parties in a negotiation look for some type of common ground in which both parties come out the winner or a 3rd option known as “win, win or no deal” is the result. Dr. Covey does a much better job of giving an in-depth explanation of the concept, or habit of win, win, but it is essential in successful negotiations if both parties are to come out of a negotiation feeling satisfied and accomplished.
Habit 5, “seek first to understand, then to be understood” goes very much hand in hand, and is essential in accomplishing the win, win in a negotiation. Imagine going in to each negotiation and saying to the other party, “let’s see if we can come to a win,win result in our negotiations, does that sound ok with you?”, (they would likely say yes), then you’d say, “I would like you to start, and I want to be totally clear on your position before I begin, would that be OK?”. Can you imagine how much differently the negotiations may go?
I’ve said if before and I’ll say it again, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” is a life changing book and a must read for everyone who wants to better their life. Next week we will continue and conclude our mini-series when I discuss habits 6 & 7.
For this week’s feel good story, we have to go way back in the way back machine to July 1950 in Syracuse, NY. I’m not sure how this article came across my reading list this week but I’m glad it did, because good values are timeless and like I’ve said so many times before, character is what you do when nobody is looking and this is a great example. In July of 1950, Mary Sakowski was working as a cleaning lady at a local bank, when on her fourth night, she found 4 stacks of money on the floor behind the teller counter. Find out what this exceptional woman who was making a whopping $18 per week did with the $40,000 by checking out our podcast or the article here.
With that I’ll just say, don’t let all the political theater or doom and gloom media get you down, get out there and be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you’ve got and remember, it’s up to you to make each and every day the day you want it to be.
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